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- happening fish
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happeningfish wrote:oh god, i just emailed one of my roommates to basically tell her straight up that i'm taking the bedroom she wants because i'm a legal tenant and i've chosen my room, and when she DOES eventually sign the lease she's free to any AVAILABLE room. That's fair, right? I made the email as friendly as humanly possible and i just fucking pray that she doesn't make a big stink about it.
AGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
mal says:
alex i got your email
mal says:
just read it now
alex says:
hi
mal says:
need to sleep so can't stay i'm sorry
mal says:
i'm glad you're doing well
mal says:
i am too
alex says:
awesome
mal says:
did noémie not talk to you about the room situation?
alex says:
we discussed it
mal says:
we thought it was a really fair way to do it
mal says:
we thought you would too
alex says:
i feel that what i mentioned in the email was pretty much the situation
mal says:
i don't really think it's fair though alex
alex says:
i don't think it's fair that you can come in last and lay claim to a taken room
alex says:
in my opinion
mal says:
it's not taken alex though... no one has moved in and just because your going next weekend we all agreed before we left that we'd pick from a hat or whatever
mal says:
even becca, maya and nadege did that
alex says:
i never agreed to that
alex says:
i need to move into a room next weekend
mal says:
and i told noé i'd know next wednesday and that's fine
mal says:
she told me shes going to also
alex says:
i'm not drawing for a room
mal says:
why not?
alex says:
because the other two tenants have chosen their rooms and i have chosen mine
mal says:
i can't talk about this anymore tonight
mal says:
i know what you feel
mal says:
and you know how i feel
mal says:
we'll discuss more later
mal says:
goodnite and don't hate me but i don't think ti's fair and noé agreed with me that picking from a hat (even her too) was more fair
alex says:
look, the fact of that matter is that i'm moving in
mal says:
yes i know
mal says:
and i'll know next wednesday
mal says:
BEFORE you move in!
alex says:
know what
mal says:
know when i'm signing the lease
mal says:
we can pick from a hat tomorrow if we have to
alex says:
that's all very nice but as far as i am concerned i'm moving into my apartment into a room that no tenant has taken
alex (i love you but it doesn't matter) says:
i'm not discussing this with you any more
mal says:
alex... i don't want to fight
mal says:
you’re my friend
alex says:
neither do i
alex says:
but this is the situation
mal says:
both you and i wanted that room and i thought you considered me a roomate even though i couldn't be on the lease
mal says:
isn't that right?
alex says:
regardless of why or why not you haven't signed the lease the fact is that you haven't
alex says:
and it doesn't really matter to me why or when or whatever
alex says:
but when you do, that room will be taken
alex says:
and you will just be entering the situation late and that's how it is
mal says:
alex we wouldn't have had this place had i not thought of asking nadege for their landlord's number
mal says:
i was in from the start
mal says:
i went to look at the place with you
mal says:
this is not fair alex
mal says:
aside from the legal things
mal says:
we're friends
alex says:
it's not fair that you reserved the option of ditching us by not signing the lease when we did
alex says:
REGARDLESS of whether you would have ever actually done that
alex says:
we put up with that because we had to and we understood it wasn't your decision
mal says:
i couldn't sign the lease until now
mal says:
i'm sorry
alex says:
i know
alex says:
it's not your fault
mal says:
yes you put up with it alex
alex says:
but this is how it is
mal says:
but i was there from the start
mal says:
noé agreed to pick from a hat
mal says:
so did i
mal says:
so why can't you too?
alex says:
because i don't agree with the principle
mal says:
noé told me that you wouldn't discuss the rooms with me until i signed the lease
mal says:
okay i understand that
mal says:
and i think thats a lot more fair
mal says:
you wouldn't have this apt without me alex
mal says:
i don't agree with your principle
alex says:
which is that you should be able to lay claim to a room in MY apartment???
alex says:
you are confused i think
mal says:
it's our apartment
mal says:
and i'm not laying claim
alex says:
you're not a tenant
mal says:
i'm saying PICK FROM A HAT
mal says:
to be fair
alex says:
HOW
mal says:
over the internet
mal says:
have a third unrelated party
mal says:
so what if i became one on wednesday?
alex says:
then you'd take a room that was available
mal says:
that's not fair alex
alex says:
it's absolutely fair
mal says:
i thought you were my friend?
mal says:
we've been through a lot
alex says:
this has nothing to do with friendship
alex says:
and you know it
mal says:
yes it does
mal says:
trust
mal says:
and right now i don't trust you
mal says:
i'm not discussing this anymore with you
mal says:
until next week
alex says:
i'm just really upset over this whole thing
mal says:
goodnite
alex says:
i'm going to montreal next week
alex says:
and my stuff is going in a room
mal says:
if you had any idea how upsetting this has been for me
mal says:
too
mal says:
alex
mal says:
i love you
mal says:
you are my friend
mal says:
but i cannot discuss this with you any further
mal says:
tonight you have hurt my feelings
alex says:
it's a goddamn bedroom
alex says:
get over it
mal says:
it's the moral of the whole thing
alex says:
yes, you put us through so much crap
alex says:
and you know it
alex says:
and we sucked it up
mal says:
thanks
--mal appears to be offline and may not reply--
I AM SO FUCKING ANGRY ABOUT THIS WHOLE THING.
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move in your shit before she does.
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but what if she moves in her stuff before you? 

-lori
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Wow. I mean, I agree with you Alex. Its a bedroom, it has nothing to do with whether or not you've been friends, or trust or relatioships it has to do with appartments and roomates learning to live with each other. What does is matter is the other people want to pick from a hat?
She sounds like the kind of person who often gets what they want (no offence) and is trying to talk her way into that room. Hopfully it'll all work out in the end though.
She sounds like the kind of person who often gets what they want (no offence) and is trying to talk her way into that room. Hopfully it'll all work out in the end though.
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Well you sipped from the cup but you don't own up to anything
Then you think you will inspire
Take apart your head
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Goodbye you liar,
Well you sipped from the cup but you don't own up to anything
Then you think you will inspire
Take apart your head
(and I wish I could inspire)
Take apart your demons, then you add it to the list.
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She who moves in first chooses first. Period.
Unless, however, you all decide to rent it at the same time, and all of the original roomates choose their rooms then and there. But, with this lease signing business, that method is out the window, so it becomes a first come first serve situation. Especially since two of the roomates (one of whom hasn't even signed the lease yet) can't agree on who gets the room.

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so. on rich and shelley's site, in the links section, there's a link to 'laurel's olp site'. yeah, that's not me. just so people know.
uh.
anyway. alex, you have a complete right to that room, if she hasn't even signed on as a tenant yet. she seems like she might be problematic to live with, if this room thing is a huge deal right now....have you lived with her before?
uh.
anyway. alex, you have a complete right to that room, if she hasn't even signed on as a tenant yet. she seems like she might be problematic to live with, if this room thing is a huge deal right now....have you lived with her before?
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thanks guys.
i don't actually know what to do. if i just go and move in i'll come off as the big bad bitch and it will fuck everything up for a long time. bad way to start the year.
if i just put my tail between my legs and let them manipulate me into a draw then i'm just going to be fucking BITTER, especially if i lose. even if i win, it's going to be all that "see? was that so hard?" bullshit.
i was looking forward to this whole apartment thing so much and it's all fucked up now because of a stupid room
i don't actually know what to do. if i just go and move in i'll come off as the big bad bitch and it will fuck everything up for a long time. bad way to start the year.
if i just put my tail between my legs and let them manipulate me into a draw then i'm just going to be fucking BITTER, especially if i lose. even if i win, it's going to be all that "see? was that so hard?" bullshit.
i was looking forward to this whole apartment thing so much and it's all fucked up now because of a stupid room

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whose side are your other 2 room mates on? yours or hers?
-lori
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well, noe was the one who came up with the draw in the interests of keeping the peace. she doesn't care which room she ends up with, she just doesn't want a big fight about it. unfortunately by planting this stupid draw idea in mal's head it backs mal up on her bullshit position. if noe had just blocked her out this problem wouldn't even be up for discussion anymore.
and then there's eric, and he's just totally uninvolved. he's the boy so he gets the room at the other end of the apartment and whatever. i don't think he even knows this is happening.
and then there's eric, and he's just totally uninvolved. he's the boy so he gets the room at the other end of the apartment and whatever. i don't think he even knows this is happening.
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is eric your hot cat? if he is, i say screw your room and share his room. 

-lori
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And now, perhaps the most bitter email I have ever composed:
i agree to drawing with mal for the room with the following adendums:
1. that you both know that, no matter the outcome, i am extremely upset about being coerced into this. because that is all it is, plain and simple.
2. that the draw is fair. i'll come straight out and say i don't trust either of you.
3. that if i draw the room with the semi-solid wall, my neighbour agrees to be completely ignored if she tries to complain that eric and i are up until 4 am being noisy. god knows i tried my best to avoid it coming to that, and look what i got for it. so, noisy we will be, and put up with it you will just goddamn have to.
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