Love & Relationships Thread

nikki4982 · Post by **nikki4982** » 3/28/2006, 6:37 am

Going back to Cass' question... me and Monkey were really good friends. Then... well, you can guess the rest. :lol:

It's a really good way to start a relationship. :nod:

You know the real person that way, not who they're pretending to be to get into your pants.

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 3/28/2006, 1:13 pm

Yes...that's true. But scary. Who wants to lose a friend?

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 3/28/2006, 1:41 pm

You gotta take chances. I'm currently in one of those long-time-friend deals and, although I've only ever dated friends, this one's a little stranger than most because we've known each other for so incredibly long but mostly as a two-members-of-the-same-group-of-friends thing rather than really one-on-one. That dynamic is so persistent after having existed for like 8 years that when we're alone together it's still kind of like "heh, gee, what are we doing here". Trick is to take it super slowly and not make a big deal out of it. Until (if ever) it looks like it might work long-term.

think_about_it · Post by **think_about_it** » 3/28/2006, 2:11 pm

I married one of my best friends

It's worked out AMAZING!

pit_girl1 · Post by **pit_girl1** » 3/28/2006, 3:07 pm

My boyfriend and I were really good friends before we got together, and it makes the relationship so great in my opinion. He's pretty much my best friend, and it's wonderful

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 3/28/2006, 3:46 pm

Ack, that is scary!

I want stories people. How did it come about? Just a..."hey...I gotta tell ya something..."

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 3/28/2006, 5:03 pm

I don't think I'm much help because in my case it was like, went away to college, received drunken MSNing about having had a crush on me for like three years, then awkward secret i-like-you-ness during the brief periods we were at home together for another solid year, before final random drunken kisses. But you don't drink, so you're probably screwed

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 3/28/2006, 5:04 pm

Well...I could spike his Mountain Dew!

Kathy · Post by **Kathy** » 3/28/2006, 5:46 pm

My husband and I met at the same part time job and we became friends. But we had both started to think of each other as more than just friends after awhile. And then his birthday came and he invited me out with all his friends. There was a huge table of people at dinner, but neither of us noticed... we were in our own little world.

So, both of us had a couple of drinks at dinner, and then all his friends wanted to go to the bar. I was under age, so he told them he wasn't going to go because he wanted to stay with me. Instead he walked me home and kissed me goodnight.

And then the next day I was really confused... not knowing if it was the couple of drinks, or if he really liked me, etc. So I went to work to wait for his shift to end so that we could talk. He came into the break room, saw me there, came across the room before I could even say a word, kissed me, and said he'd be finished in an hour :love:

its4am_isanybodyhome · Post by **its4am_isanybodyhome** » 3/28/2006, 6:22 pm

well me and my ex...this probably isnt a great way to start, but while it lasted, we had a great relationship....we met online, started talking, became fast friends and somehow just fell in love, met in person and he became the closest person in my life. there was nothing i felt uncomfortable about with him. nothing.

nelison · Post by **nelison** » 3/28/2006, 8:41 pm

I would say myself and my girlfriend's relationship probably defeats any sort of barrier that people tend to think ruins relationships...

First, we were friends for 3 years. Not even best friends but we were friends and had a lot in common. Then we went through the old fashioned dating process for a few months before becoming "official"

Second, we started our relationship at the beginning of grade 12, a time when most people don't want to start something serious because university is right around the corner.

Third, we've been going to different universities in cities 2 hours apart. So for the last 3 years we've had a long distance relationship for 2/3rds of the year, only seeing eachother one weekend every few weeks.

The fact is things are only as awkward as you make them when you're starting something with a friend. Long Distance can work if both people want it. We've been together for nearly 4 years now, so I think that's pretty good proof that even the biggest obstacles are possible to overcome.

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 3/28/2006, 10:12 pm

Inspiration!

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 3/28/2006, 10:30 pm

I find it unusual that neither of you felt the urge to date around in college.

pit_girl1 · Post by **pit_girl1** » 3/28/2006, 11:32 pm

J-Neli wrote:I would say myself and my girlfriend's relationship probably defeats any sort of barrier that people tend to think ruins relationships...

First, we were friends for 3 years. Not even best friends but we were friends and had a lot in common. Then we went through the old fashioned dating process for a few months before becoming "official"

Second, we started our relationship at the beginning of grade 12, a time when most people don't want to start something serious because university is right around the corner.

Third, we've been going to different universities in cities 2 hours apart. So for the last 3 years we've had a long distance relationship for 2/3rds of the year, only seeing eachother one weekend every few weeks.

The fact is things are only as awkward as you make them when you're starting something with a friend. Long Distance can work if both people want it. We've been together for nearly 4 years now, so I think that's pretty good proof that even the biggest obstacles are possible to overcome.

My boyfriend and I also go to two separate colleges. It's tough, but both of us think it's worth it, so we make it work. We've also been together over 3 1/2 years. And he's two years younger than I am. So that's more proof to corroborate Jim's that if you love each other enough, you can make nearly anything work.

starvingeyes · Post by **starvingeyes** » 3/29/2006, 12:19 pm

my girlfriend told me that if i hit her one more time, she's gonna break up with me!

i don't know what to do you guys, on one hand i love her and stuff, but on the other hand, she talks back!

what do i do?

Matt. · Post by **Matt.** » 3/29/2006, 12:20 pm

Umm you don't hit her. It's that simple.

starvingeyes · Post by **starvingeyes** » 3/29/2006, 12:54 pm

dude you don't know how lippy she is though

Matt. · Post by **Matt.** » 3/29/2006, 12:59 pm

If she's lippy and you're not happy, then talk to her about it and try to work things out or just get yourself out of the relationship entirely. But under no circumstances are you ever justified in hitting her..

starvingeyes · Post by **starvingeyes** » 3/29/2006, 1:03 pm

i don't see what the big deal is. it's not like i do it with a closed fist or something. open hand only. geez.

i mean, you don't know what i have to put up with from her. i'll be all like "yo, wash the dishes" or "isn't it time for you to put out?" and she'll always be like "i'm not your slave" or "stop it, this is rape!".

like, what am i supposed to do? i gotta smack her.

Kathy · Post by **Kathy** » 3/29/2006, 1:13 pm

that's sooo not funny