your cheating heart

doug · Post by **doug** » 12/12/2003, 11:27 am

say you've got a girlfriend but you, for whatever reason, have somehow managed to completely fall for somebody else.

isn't that worse then just going and fucking somebody else?

i mean, sure you haven't touched the other person. But if sometimes you'd rather be with the new person then the one you're with, isn't that a form of cheating?

or am i totally wrong?

opinions? what you rather have, your boyfriend/girlfriend engaging in a meaningless fling or falling hard for somebody else but not getting physical with them?

trentm32 · Post by **trentm32** » 12/12/2003, 1:17 pm

If she falls in love with someone else, and outta love with you, you shouldn't stand in the way of her being happy. If she just meaninglessly cheats on you, I'd try to talk it out, and see if she is sincerely repentant, if not, drop her like a bad habit.

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 12/12/2003, 1:19 pm

they both mean that you need to question your relationship

meaningless fling = something's going on with the physical aspect of your relationship, or your partner wouldn't go and have sex with another man/woman

falling hard for another person = another problem...maybe you two don't have the same feelings about each other anymore. this happens.

Reyna · Post by **Reyna** » 12/12/2003, 5:12 pm

well...
i once fell majorly for one of my boyfriend's good friends.
it was like you said. we never had a physical relationship, or anything more than a friendship, but i felt like we had a connection and i really liked him.
nothing ever came of it.
my boyfriend and I are still together. i still see the other boy and i am still friends with him. but i realized how much i care about the boy i have and i don't want anyone else.

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 12/12/2003, 7:05 pm

I guess you gotta weigh the situation. I mean...if you don't feel the same about the person then you've gotta question whether you should be together. But love is something you gotta work at. Other people come in and out, but you gotta remember why you fell in love. Uhm. Listen to me, Mrs. Never Been in Love.

The Post Modern · Post by **The Post Modern** » 12/12/2003, 7:28 pm

Never having been in love probably allows you to see it most clearly. It's when you're in the thick of it that it all gets blurry.

I think if your love falls for someone else, it's pretty much a deal breaker, but I wouldn't say that it's worse than cheating.

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 12/12/2003, 9:22 pm

If you don't act on it, then there's nothing wrong. Everyone thinks wrongs things.

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 12/12/2003, 9:24 pm

falling in love is fun....

:love:

*gets all sentimental*

sandsleeper · Post by **sandsleeper** » 12/12/2003, 9:27 pm

i listened to Kathy With a K's song on repeat for half an hour today.

and i still don't believe any of it.

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 12/12/2003, 9:27 pm

*gets bitterly cynical and tries not cry*

Jeni · Post by **Jeni** » 12/15/2003, 9:44 am

OLPMazurite wrote:falling in love is fun....

*gets all sentimental*

You said it. :love:

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 12/15/2003, 9:50 am

Love is real
it is not
just in novels or the movies
it is fact
and it is standing here right in front of you
so if you open your eyes
what a sweet discovery
there is hope, there is joy, and there is acceptance
so now let all the light that collects on your plants
keep you warm
make you smile
and I will be there with this pen in my hand to record
all the while
you'll be laughing so loud
that the house would shake with sound
and everything would be as new as the day it was found.

Love is real
it is not just in long distance commercials
or something that you thought you felt back in high school
so I will turn
black and white
become that horoscope you're reading
it predicts something good is on it's way
and then I'll send you the world green and blue
in a box in the mail
you can open it up
hold it right in your hand and be glad taht it's there
and be glad that you're there
you can feel all the knots in your stomach start to untie
and suddenly it's not so hard to say you're allright.

Love is real
it is not
just in poetry and stories
it is truth
and it will follow you
everywhere you go from now on
so if you would just cast off your doubt
then your lips would answer for you
oh my darling, when you smile
it is like a song
and I can hear it now.

:love:

it is true! :nod:

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 12/15/2003, 9:52 am

i forgot about that song.
i like that song

Jeni · Post by **Jeni** » 12/15/2003, 9:53 am

Ain't love grand? :love:

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 12/15/2003, 9:54 am

doug · Post by **doug** » 12/15/2003, 12:11 pm

yeah, love is great.

and so is CHEATING!

ahem.

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 12/16/2003, 1:18 am

OLPMazurite wrote:Love is real
it is not
just in novels or the movies
it is fact
and it is standing here right in front of you
so if you open your eyes
what a sweet discovery
there is hope, there is joy, and there is acceptance
so now let all the light that collects on your plants
keep you warm
make you smile
and I will be there with this pen in my hand to record
all the while
you'll be laughing so loud
that the house would shake with sound
and everything would be as new as the day it was found.

Love is real
it is not just in long distance commercials
or something that you thought you felt back in high school
so I will turn
black and white
become that horoscope you're reading
it predicts something good is on it's way
and then I'll send you the world green and blue
in a box in the mail
you can open it up
hold it right in your hand and be glad taht it's there
and be glad that you're there
you can feel all the knots in your stomach start to untie
and suddenly it's not so hard to say you're allright.

Love is real
it is not
just in poetry and stories
it is truth
and it will follow you
everywhere you go from now on
so if you would just cast off your doubt
then your lips would answer for you
oh my darling, when you smile
it is like a song
and I can hear it now.

it is true!

why does this song always make me cry?