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I've got a group of friends who really mean the world to me, but it seems with more than one of them, I am always the one who has to pick up the phone and call them whether it be just to chat or to invite them over or w/e. I'm just not getting it in return. I don't know how to talk to them about it, because I don't want them thinking I'm being pushy or w/e. And the thing is it doesnt happen with all of them, so I dont know how to bring it up. HELP!

I'm in the same boat as you dude. Im the one calling my mates to get together and such.

I was like that in high school, but when I got to college I just stopped making the effort, and now I have no friends. Solved the problem, course then again...I have no friends...

I would bring the subject up individually and as lightly as possible - just explain that you feel that you're the one always doing the calling, and say it's not really a big deal and that you were just curious.

Actually I forgot that I did ask my friends about this topic before, their answer was that I always phoned them

ever get that feeling that you don't belong anywhere? ... I hate that

Maybe your friends are not the phoning type... well i don't know how likely it is that ALL of them are like that, depending on how many of them there are... but i for one am hardly ever the one to organize something. mostly because i'm introverted and hate the phone. I've got one particular group of friends, and there's always one or two people who organize our get togethers every single time, but it's not cause the rest of us don't like them, just that we're anti-social and/or can't be bothered

ANTI_SOSHELL wrote:ever get that feeling that you don't belong anywhere? ... I hate that

yeah. me too.

and i know how that is marissa. i'm always the last one to know when my friends are doing something. once they drove halfway to applebees before they remembered they were supposed to pick me up.

honestly i think the best thing you can do is stop making the effort. if they're good friends of yours they'll become concerned by your silence and contact you. give them a chance to come after you.

I don't call people. No one calls me. It works out great.

Jaqui i'll be your friend

Joey wrote:I don't call people. No one calls me. It works out great.

Same here.

Yay for anti-socialism!

I have like 30 friends in skool but outa skool i only talk to like ten so... and i never see them?

I have a group of close friends in school, but outside of school it's just me and the CM, and the rare get-together with the school group of friends [I talk to my school friends on AIM though].

I don't have any close friends .. just acquaintances now .. my friends and I have all drifted apart and moved on .. I guess we weren't all that close to begin with then.

Me and most of my friends drifted apart. I still got 5 good, life long(I hope) friends

Joey wrote:I don't call people. No one calls me. It works out great.

agreed

and josh first i would learn how to spell Jacqui before you become friends.

heh
that happened to me w/ my friends from HS
then like.. today.. i got an email and an angry icq msg from my friend yelling at me that my "damn fucking phone number in my icq info is a fucking fax machine" (i was too lazy to answer the phone cuz i was sleeping) and turns out he's visiting another friend in ontario and today we went out heh
havent seen those 2 guys in 4 years heh

Thanks everyone, I appreciate your advice

what is "w/e"?

I think they said w/, as in "with," but I'm guessing "w/e" would be "whatever."