Love & Relationships Thread

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 10/14/2005, 1:40 pm

that might sound like overkill but like claire said, better safe than sorry, and also better to get professional adivce now than wait until you've dug yourself in deeper - until things have gotten much creepier or more dangerous or difficult (which they might.. i obviously don't know the situation firsthand).

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 10/14/2005, 1:40 pm

shit, pagebabied, see previous page. i hope things end up ok hun <3

Rusty · Post by **Rusty** » 10/14/2005, 5:43 pm

Yeah, defintley get out of that. Make up some reason as to why you need your guitar back, then bring a friend and get it back. Then when you're back at home, say you don't want to see him anymore.

Lando · Post by **Lando** » 10/14/2005, 6:19 pm

Joanne wrote:no...
i definitely knew he was 31.
..after the first date though. he was like "i dont call girls my girlfriends until the 3rd date or so" and now he is calling me his after one... not bad right?

he is telling his therapist about me and his therapist is proud of him.
he keeps bringing up the fact that i am a virgin.
he is now begging me to go on another date, every day...
he also told me his had ego problems a year or so ago and that led him to bad things... but refused to tell me what they were.
he was a hardcore drug addict until 5 years ago, and he still is not sober and is drunk almost every night.

all of this... he told me like wednesday night... 2 days after our first date. and i really want out of this situation i dont like it.

and my problem is ... i have to go on another date with him because we traded guitars. his bass for my les paul for 2 weeks. and i want my les paul back, its worth more than my life.

It seriously can't be THAT hard to get a normal guy, even one somewhat near your own age... No offense, I really don't mean to sound mean, but it's like you looked for a guy with a shitload of problems when there are definitely more you could have chose from and avoided situations like these...

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 10/14/2005, 7:56 pm

You might be surprised.

Lando · Post by **Lando** » 10/14/2005, 8:02 pm

As well, you should be too. Seriously.

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 10/14/2005, 8:23 pm

seriously....no such thing as a normal guy.

Post by **saman** » 10/14/2005, 8:44 pm

no such thing as normal. i don't know who made the concept up, but whoever it was was messed up

Lando · Post by **Lando** » 10/14/2005, 8:46 pm

okay, let me rephrase then, a "NOT FUCKED UP" guy.

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 10/15/2005, 6:51 am

pleeease introduce me to a non-fucked up guy. I know they exist but i'm desperately trying to find one...I'VE FOUND NO SUCH THING!

Lando · Post by **Lando** » 10/15/2005, 2:45 pm

Maybe look in other places... Unless you're seriously telling me you can't find a guy who isn't currently an alcoholic with past extreme substance abuse problems who's currently attending therapy, perhaps related to ego problems this guy had...

Well if you honestly can't find a guy that doesn't have any of those things, at least find one a little closer to your age.

This way if he gets you into a bunch of shit that will only end negatively, then at least you can both say you went through it at around the same point in your lives.

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 10/15/2005, 2:52 pm

...i'm NOT settling for a druggie/alcoholic just because he's the SAME age as me :lol:

...i'd rather be alone.

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 10/15/2005, 2:56 pm

piece of advice from an e-mail my friend sent me:

avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

:lol:

Lando · Post by **Lando** » 10/15/2005, 6:42 pm

Here's a tip for both girls and guys. Don't meet people at rehab clinics.

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 10/15/2005, 6:46 pm

no no, at least those ones are trying to change. the ones not in rehab are the ones to steer clear from.

Post by **saman** » 10/15/2005, 7:10 pm

"It's the crazy ones that have the good pills" - Samantha

sorry, i couldn't resist

its4am_isanybodyhome · Post by **its4am_isanybodyhome** » 10/15/2005, 9:28 pm

so..this guy matt.
we were going out for 15 months and then we broke up. well, we are technically "taking a break." he needs to sort out some shit going on in his head, he says. you changed me so fast when i met you i need to let it catch up with me, he says. but i thought i changed you for the better, i say. you did, he says. i'm SUPER FUCKING CONFUSED, i say. i miss him a lot. and we still talk. but it's so awkward now. and i still love him.

laurel · Post by **laurel** » 10/15/2005, 9:44 pm

*mutters* breakups suck. i just broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years...mind you, it's a breakup for good.
but we do still talk. and we talk about how we miss each other, and how hard it is. it's a very odd situation. everytime he comes over, we end up hugging like crazy..and. i don't know.

point of this response: i sorta know what you're going through.

in other news, i'm becoming a hermit.

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 10/15/2005, 10:16 pm

jillian: he might be feeling trapped cause of his age and either cheating or wanting to screw around.

Johnny · Post by **Johnny** » 10/15/2005, 10:34 pm

Where did the Happeningfish go?