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its4am_isanybodyhome · Post by **its4am_isanybodyhome** » 10/6/2005, 5:18 pm

i'm on the pill for menstrual problems. but me and my boyfriend recently broke up, so it doesn't matter anyways

-LONELY-

its4am_isanybodyhome · Post by **its4am_isanybodyhome** » 10/6/2005, 5:19 pm

oh yeah, about 6 years ago, me and a couple friends were randomly asked in the park some questions for an article about sex. we went "teehee"

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 10/6/2005, 5:49 pm

Axtech wrote:Exactly. That's why I think the argument "why will he want to buy the cow if he can get the milk for free" is stupid. Why the hell would you want to marry someone who's only in it for the "milk" anyways?

BUT WHAT IF HE'S LACTOSE INTOLERANT?!?!

starseed_10 · Post by **starseed_10** » 10/6/2005, 6:32 pm

that cow analogy so stupid

Anyway, Rob, i dont know if you're referring to specific cases or if you assume most people who save themselves end up getting married for the sex.

I think the type of people who save themselves to begin with generally aren't drawn to the idea of having sex as much as they are to love. So in most, if not just about all cases, people who save themselves are getting married because they're in love. Sex is an added benefit, not the reason behind marriage.

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 10/6/2005, 6:33 pm

he's digging at the premise behind the cow argument.

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 10/6/2005, 6:39 pm

SERIOUSLY BUT WHAT IF HE'S LACTOSE INTOLERANT?!?!

starseed_10 · Post by **starseed_10** » 10/6/2005, 6:44 pm

i just thought of a good asian joke, but i'm not gonna say it

joe_canadian · Post by **joe_canadian** » 10/6/2005, 6:51 pm

What's sex?

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 10/6/2005, 6:55 pm

VIRGIN

laurel · Post by **laurel** » 10/6/2005, 6:57 pm

i was going to do the saving myself until marriage thing. my reason was not religious at all. i place a very high value to sex (or, as i re-read this, virginity)...to me, it's something that's meant to be done in a secure relationship, and done out of love. i need to feel very secure and loved with a person to give them so much. i wanted to wait until marriage to have sex for the first time because of the significance i placed on giving my virginity to someone.

that said, i fell in love. after being in the relationship almost two years, i finally decided to have sex with him, and we were both virgins. i don't regret it at all....it was in an extremely loving and secure relationship, and i honestly thought i would marry him at that point. now that we're broken up, i don't regret it at all.
now, i'm not going to go around sleeping with people now. i still want to be in a loving relationship when i finally do have sex with that person. but...i'm very very glad that i didn't end up waiting for marriage. i would have been missing out on a lot.

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 10/6/2005, 6:58 pm

laurel wrote:i was going to do the saving myself until marriage thing. my reason was not religious at all. i place a very high value to sex (or, as i re-read this, virginity)...to me, it's something that's meant to be done in a secure relationship, and done out of love. i need to feel very secure and loved with a person to give them so much. i wanted to wait until marriage to have sex for the first time because of the significance i placed on giving my virginity to someone.

that said, i fell in love. after being in the relationship almost two years, i finally decided to have sex with him, and we were both virgins. i don't regret it at all....it was in an extremely loving and secure relationship, and i honestly thought i would marry him at that point. now that we're broken up, i don't regret it at all.
now, i'm not going to go around sleeping with people now. i still want to be in a loving relationship when i finally do have sex with that person. but...i'm very very glad that i didn't end up waiting for marriage. i would have been missing out on a lot.

that's how i am too..sorta

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 10/6/2005, 7:02 pm

virginvirginvirgin

pit_girl1 · Post by **pit_girl1** » 10/6/2005, 7:07 pm

laurel wrote:i was going to do the saving myself until marriage thing. my reason was not religious at all. i place a very high value to sex (or, as i re-read this, virginity)...to me, it's something that's meant to be done in a secure relationship, and done out of love. i need to feel very secure and loved with a person to give them so much. i wanted to wait until marriage to have sex for the first time because of the significance i placed on giving my virginity to someone.

that said, i fell in love. after being in the relationship almost two years, i finally decided to have sex with him, and we were both virgins. i don't regret it at all....it was in an extremely loving and secure relationship, and i honestly thought i would marry him at that point. now that we're broken up, i don't regret it at all.
now, i'm not going to go around sleeping with people now. i still want to be in a loving relationship when i finally do have sex with that person. but...i'm very very glad that i didn't end up waiting for marriage. i would have been missing out on a lot.

I couldn't agree with you more.

laurel · Post by **laurel** » 10/6/2005, 7:12 pm

i didn't phrase things very well in that....it meant to come out a bit smoother, but i'm guessing everyone got my point, luckily.

i wish my friends would talk more about sex. it's such a natural thing, but people have so many worries and insecurities about it. if it were talked about more, it would be so much easier for people to enjoy it instead of fretting about something being wrong with them, when really, 19830572305 other people are freaking about the exact same thing.

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 10/6/2005, 7:31 pm

Last weekend me and my friensd (like 8 girls) were hanging out with our guy friend. We steered our converstaion toward sex and he freaked out. He was like, "this is what you girls talk about? I thought you talked about makeup and chic flics". We were just astounded, I mean they think that we don't talk about that? If only he knew...

Rusty · Post by **Rusty** » 10/6/2005, 7:32 pm

Just for the sake of saying it, I'm still a virgin. (I think I'm the first guy on here to openly admit that....or I'm the only guy virgin on here.) Now I do want to have sex don't get me wrong, but I'd much rather just have a girlfriend. I just wish that one of the girls I like would at least consider dating me. I'd be happy just having the "cow" although the "milk" would be nice, in the long run it wouldn't make a difference in how I felt.

superboots · Post by **superboots** » 10/6/2005, 7:33 pm

if i bought the cow just for the milk, i would be in the bathroom all the time

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 10/6/2005, 7:34 pm

LMAO

Well, if he's lactose intorant, he'll just have to buy soy beans instead.

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 10/6/2005, 7:35 pm

no shame rusty, you're a young 'un

thirdhour · Post by **thirdhour** » 10/6/2005, 7:36 pm

I really don't talk to my friends about sex at all..., I mean occasionally they'll be like, "So how's the sex lately?" (they're all such virgins tee hee) or we'll talk about concepts like leaving it to marriage, etc. I don't really mind, I get to talk to my boyfriend about it all the time, and by all the time, I mean we have this crazy ability to turn any conversation into one about sex. :lol:

I'm really glad I lost my virginity with someone who was a virgin as well. It kind of is for the same reason as keeping it for marriage, it's something really special, and I didn't want to do it for the first time with someone who wouldn't see it as special because they had already done it. That being said, I don't think sex is a big enough deal to wait until you find the person you're going to marry. It's just a human action, and having your wedding night crushed by some sex problems (seriously, first times between two virgins just aren't going to be the magical night you dreamed of) just is something I'm not all that down for.