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Rusty wrote:
Iseveryoneok wrote:
Joe Cool wrote:Just hold out for "THE ONE" and you'll be fine. Thats my advice to anyone. Unless you dont believe in "THE ONE".. in which case I wish you good luck.


good advice as well... my brother tells me that. but i dont see people caring about me that much.


You'll find someone that cares about you. You seem like a very nice person so I don't see why someone wouldn't care about you. Just remember that you can do a lot better than some jackass, who is gonna hurt you.


thanks... i hope so....
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Random Name wrote::(


whats wrong?
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Beram wrote:I always fall for the wrong guys. You know the type of guys who would never fall for me. They are like above my reach, to good for me.
And I'm way too shy. I turn red like a tomato when a "nice guy" only looks my way. :oops:
I've never really dated because of it. When I kinda like a guy and he kinda likes me (which only happened like 3 times, well from what I know) I freak out. I just sort of freeze and don't really respond on the hints. The thought of someone liking me/ falling for me, is just too weird for me. It’s not that I don’t want a boyfriend or anything! Pff no! But I don’t want a boyfriend ‘because I want a boyfriend.’ Well, you know what I mean right.

Well maybe it's not just shyness but also low self esteem. :uh:


Ah yes, sounds familiar! This is a classic case in my eyes ... because that is me. Not only do I have limted self confidence, but am seriously lacking in the self esteem department.

I choose guys who I know I could never be with, without even knowing it. Either I have categorized them as way out of my reach, they are too old for me or already in a relationship. Then, if and when things do not work out, I can blame it on one of the above.

The worst part is that I know I do this and I'm not sure if I want to fix it. I don't feel like being rejected anytime soon. I'm a perfectionist and this just doesn't sit right with me.

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Mechanical Thought wrote:I don't feel like being rejected anytime soon. I'm a perfectionist and this just doesn't sit right with me.


me too :nod:
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i choose loneliness. it ain't so bad.
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it'll get worse :(
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get worse? it's all i've known my entire life, and by now things have kind of plateaued. it actually feels kind of cozy at this point.
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i dunno .. i find it gets worse the older you get :(
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but just think, someday soon you can be the cranky old lady at the end of the street with a house full of cats who yells obscenities at the neighbours with a bull-horn.

and what will all your coupled friends be doing? watching their bratty grand-kids while their kids are running amok and fucking the baby-sitter/milkman. what suckers.
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sandsleeper wrote:but just think, someday soon you can be the cranky old lady at the end of the street with a house full of cats who yells obscenities at the neighbours with a bull-horn.


that's what i'm afraid will happen :lol: :(
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sandsleeper wrote:i choose loneliness. it ain't so bad.

i'm becoming reacquainted with loneliness, i think i'll keep him around a bit longer... i'm much happier this way :)
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That sounds great. Too bad loneliness is currently making its highly unhealthy nest in my stomach lining and, apparently, chewing on it happily.
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Mechanical Thought wrote:
Beram wrote:I always fall for the wrong guys. You know the type of guys who would never fall for me. They are like above my reach, to good for me.
And I'm way too shy. I turn red like a tomato when a "nice guy" only looks my way. :oops:
I've never really dated because of it. When I kinda like a guy and he kinda likes me (which only happened like 3 times, well from what I know) I freak out. I just sort of freeze and don't really respond on the hints. The thought of someone liking me/ falling for me, is just too weird for me. It’s not that I don’t want a boyfriend or anything! Pff no! But I don’t want a boyfriend ‘because I want a boyfriend.’ Well, you know what I mean right.

Well maybe it's not just shyness but also low self esteem. :uh:


Ah yes, sounds familiar! This is a classic case in my eyes ... because that is me. Not only do I have limted self confidence, but am seriously lacking in the self esteem department.

I choose guys who I know I could never be with, without even knowing it. Either I have categorized them as way out of my reach, they are too old for me or already in a relationship. Then, if and when things do not work out, I can blame it on one of the above.

The worst part is that I know I do this and I'm not sure if I want to fix it. I don't feel like being rejected anytime soon. I'm a perfectionist and this just doesn't sit right with me.



It sucks doesn't it? :(

It sucks even more that most of my friends are in a relationship.

bleh, I only get more sad thinking about it.

So you guys, come on! Cheer up, I’m sure everyone here (who is not already in a relationship) will meet somebody really nice any time soon, and get into a relationship with the person. I’ll pray for you all!
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All of my friends are in a relationship too .. in fact, one is already married with a 7 week old son and another one has been with the same guy for like 7 years .. then there's me, it's GREAT :uh:
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Well, try going to Provo, aka Happy Valley. If you go to Happy Valley for more than a week and you're not hooked up, you pretty much fail at life.
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Beram wrote:I’ll pray for you all!


Thank you :)
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happeningfish wrote:
Beram wrote:I’ll pray for you all!


Thank you :)


No need to thank me for that my dear. :D
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