Alrighty, my step-brother moved out a month or so ago, to a house a few miles away with some friends. One of them is dropping out on the deal (he got engaged), so they need a new roommate. The house is an alright place, even a little bit closer to university than I am now. I'd have a smaller room than here at my dad's, but rent's cheap (rounds out to about $130 bucks a piece).
The only prob is that my step-brother and I are, as most of you know, not on the closest of terms as we once were. When he moved out, he pretty much dropped all of his old friends (me included). We still chat a bit, but we're not that close anymore.
Anyways, they offered me the room, and I don't know what to do. My dad (whom I currently live with) is probably gonna move pretty soon (not too far, just across town), and I don't want to move again. Me and a friend of mine (Scrub) plan on splitting an apartment sometime in the next few months, so I thought about moving over there for now, and leaving when my bud get's able to go in with me.
I just don't know what to do.
I talked to my friends about it (the ones he somewhat dropped, along with me) and they think it's a pretty good idea. They said they'd be cool coming over there; and Scrub practically lives at my house now, and he'd be cool over there with me, so I'd still have my friends. And some mutal friends of me and my brothers think it's a great idea, so they want me to move in.
I just don't know what to do.
Give me some ideas, guys. I just have a couple more days to think about it, and figure it out. Gimme some advice, guys.
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trentm32
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May Be Moving Out, Need Advice
"When looking up there, I just felt whole, like I belonged. Like one day I too would shine my most brilliant. Sitting there also made me think about sitting through services at my little country church back home. About that never-changing congregation of the same sixty-seven people and everyone has known you since before you were born. Now, out here in the real world, everything just seemed more vivid than when I used to sit in that little pew. That pew that was now so, so far away from where I was. I feared I had somehow left God behind there, too. I feared he was somehow just sitting there, saving my seat on the fifth pew from the front row, just waiting on me to come back. I left so quickly, I worried that he may not have noticed I was gone. And, now, I’m just too far away to find. So he’s just sitting there, patiently waiting on me to come back. I closed my eyes and prayed a moment. I hoped more than anything that he could still hear me." -an excerpt from my novella, A Sea of Fallen Leaves.
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Henrietta
In order to be happy with moving out you need to be able to get along well withthe people you're going to be living with. If the relationship with your brother is cold and rather awkward. Don't do it. You're gonna make his and your life a living hell and probably ram the wedge between you deeper than it was before. Also, if you're unhappy there, your school work will probably suffer as you'll find excuses not to be in the house while they're around and thus you wont study either. (speaking from experience I've been thru it all before)
What you really have to do is break it up into pros and cons.
The biggest pro of living at home is that its CHEAP. Even if you do move out in a few months... thats a cupla hundred youve saved before moving out anyways.
I can't decide this for you obviously. There also comes the responsibility of house work too. If youre step brother is a total neat freak and youre like living like a pig in a sty. Youre gonna clash badly.
I'm sorta running with my thoughts as they come up so excuse the disjointed paragraph process
So... the 2 big C's you need to consider in said order.
Compatibility
Cost
If you have ANY doubts with these... especially with the first one. Forget it. It won't work and it will just be a miserable experience.
What you really have to do is break it up into pros and cons.
The biggest pro of living at home is that its CHEAP. Even if you do move out in a few months... thats a cupla hundred youve saved before moving out anyways.
I can't decide this for you obviously. There also comes the responsibility of house work too. If youre step brother is a total neat freak and youre like living like a pig in a sty. Youre gonna clash badly.
I'm sorta running with my thoughts as they come up so excuse the disjointed paragraph process
So... the 2 big C's you need to consider in said order.
Compatibility
Cost
If you have ANY doubts with these... especially with the first one. Forget it. It won't work and it will just be a miserable experience.
ya I say wait until your friend is ready and get a place with him. No point moving into this place and then moving again when your friend is ready.
I can't wait until the day schools are over-funded and the military is forced to hold bake sales to buy planes.
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trentm32
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Well... I'm gonna do it. Me and my bro sat down and talked a while, and we decided that it would probably all work out. Here's hoping. I'll be in eithir the next week or so. 
I'll keep you guys updated if things go awry...
I'll keep you guys updated if things go awry...
"When looking up there, I just felt whole, like I belonged. Like one day I too would shine my most brilliant. Sitting there also made me think about sitting through services at my little country church back home. About that never-changing congregation of the same sixty-seven people and everyone has known you since before you were born. Now, out here in the real world, everything just seemed more vivid than when I used to sit in that little pew. That pew that was now so, so far away from where I was. I feared I had somehow left God behind there, too. I feared he was somehow just sitting there, saving my seat on the fifth pew from the front row, just waiting on me to come back. I left so quickly, I worried that he may not have noticed I was gone. And, now, I’m just too far away to find. So he’s just sitting there, patiently waiting on me to come back. I closed my eyes and prayed a moment. I hoped more than anything that he could still hear me." -an excerpt from my novella, A Sea of Fallen Leaves.
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doo it. just doo it toot.
Whenever death may surprise us,
let it be welcome
if our battle cry has reached even one receptive ear
and another hand reaches out to take up our arms.
Nobody's gonna miss me, no tears will fall, no ones gonna weap, when i hit that road.
my boots are broken my brain is sore, fer keepin' up with thier little world, i got a heavy load.
gonna leave 'em all just like before, i'm big city bound, your always 17 in your hometown
let it be welcome
if our battle cry has reached even one receptive ear
and another hand reaches out to take up our arms.
Nobody's gonna miss me, no tears will fall, no ones gonna weap, when i hit that road.
my boots are broken my brain is sore, fer keepin' up with thier little world, i got a heavy load.
gonna leave 'em all just like before, i'm big city bound, your always 17 in your hometown
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trentm32
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The Reno has spoken; I must adhere.
"When looking up there, I just felt whole, like I belonged. Like one day I too would shine my most brilliant. Sitting there also made me think about sitting through services at my little country church back home. About that never-changing congregation of the same sixty-seven people and everyone has known you since before you were born. Now, out here in the real world, everything just seemed more vivid than when I used to sit in that little pew. That pew that was now so, so far away from where I was. I feared I had somehow left God behind there, too. I feared he was somehow just sitting there, saving my seat on the fifth pew from the front row, just waiting on me to come back. I left so quickly, I worried that he may not have noticed I was gone. And, now, I’m just too far away to find. So he’s just sitting there, patiently waiting on me to come back. I closed my eyes and prayed a moment. I hoped more than anything that he could still hear me." -an excerpt from my novella, A Sea of Fallen Leaves.
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Henrietta
No, I live with three people. I'm not particularly fond of the people I live with. We get along, that's all we need. Don't fool yourself into thinking you have to be best friends with all the people you live with because, surprise, that's never gonna happen. Even if you think it is, you'll end up not getting along with some people that you thought you would.
Cass wrote:No, I live with three people. I'm not particularly fond of the people I live with. We get along, that's all we need. Don't fool yourself into thinking you have to be best friends with all the people you live with because, surprise, that's never gonna happen. Even if you think it is, you'll end up not getting along with some people that you thought you would.
I agree, but theres a difference between compatability and getting along
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I think the biggest thing is the level of cleanliness you like living in (which Campbell mentioned in his first post)... Monkey gets SO angry because he's the only one who ever cleans up.
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<center><img src="../phpBB2/files/squiggle.gif">
<font color="#3C8C8B">Imagine there's no heaven, it's easy if you try, no hell below us,
above us only sky, imagine all the people, <font color="#FFFFFF">living</font> for today...</font>
<font color="#50B4B3">Imagine there's no countries, it isn't hard to do, nothing to kill or die
for, no religion too, imagine all the people, living <font color="#FFFFFF">life</font> in peace...</font>
<font color="#89CDCC">Imagine no possesions, I wonder if you can, no need for greed or <font color="#FFFFFF">hunger</font>,
a brotherhood of man, imagine all the people, sharing all the <font color="#FFFFFF">world</font>...</font>
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Henrietta
Yeah that is a big bone of contention with most roommates. Mine are pretty clean so I don't have a problem with it. But my friends *shudder* She is daily yelling at them telling them to take their turns doing shit. I do have a few run ins with some of my roommates, especially about the oven and her continual use and continual refusal to clean it. But I don't worry, cause I have the same problems with my sisters and brother at home. They don't clean anything, ever.
i'm pretty bad for stuff like that, i don't thin ki'm that bad, but i coudl definatly see myself getting on some people's nerves
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I felt it in the wind, and i saw it in the sky, i thought it was the end, i thought it was the 4th of July.
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"The white dove is gone, the one world has come down hard, so why not share the pain of our problems, when all around are wrong ways, when all around is hurt, i'll roll up in an odd shape and wait, untill the tide has turned.....with anger, i'm dead weight, i'm anchored"- IME, God Rocket (Into the Heart of Las Vegas) ^ Some say this song is about a terrorists thoughts before 911
"Pray for the sheep" Matt Good
"But it's alright, take the world and make it yours again" Matt Good
I felt it in the wind, and i saw it in the sky, i thought it was the end, i thought it was the 4th of July.
"Hold on, hold on children, your mother and father are leaving, hold on, hold on children your best freind's parents are leaving, leaving,.......*AHHH*! " - Death From Above - Black History Month
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trentm32
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All my stuff is over there (some friends of mine are decorating me in; they want to make a big deal out of me moving out, so they're painting the room, and decorating it with my stuff right now. I had to carry it all over there, and put it in the living room. Here's hoping itll bre a GOOD surprise. They know me well enough, so maybe they'll do alright.) I saw them when I was dropping my stuff off, and they looked like two little camo chicks; covered in a pretty cool shade of dark green. So maybe it'll be ayite. Tonight'll be my first night there!
"When looking up there, I just felt whole, like I belonged. Like one day I too would shine my most brilliant. Sitting there also made me think about sitting through services at my little country church back home. About that never-changing congregation of the same sixty-seven people and everyone has known you since before you were born. Now, out here in the real world, everything just seemed more vivid than when I used to sit in that little pew. That pew that was now so, so far away from where I was. I feared I had somehow left God behind there, too. I feared he was somehow just sitting there, saving my seat on the fifth pew from the front row, just waiting on me to come back. I left so quickly, I worried that he may not have noticed I was gone. And, now, I’m just too far away to find. So he’s just sitting there, patiently waiting on me to come back. I closed my eyes and prayed a moment. I hoped more than anything that he could still hear me." -an excerpt from my novella, A Sea of Fallen Leaves.
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