Self-Harm

[Joey]

[nelison]

[Joey]

I know there are self harmers on this board and I've had conversations about it with them, so I am more then comfortable talking about such issues. I also know for a fact that the self harmers on this board will not participate in this discussion .. self injury is a very personal issue and for someone who self injures it's not that easy to discuss so openly on a message board .. that's like laying your heart completely wide open and allowing people to dissect it. Just because your intention is to have a 'discussion' about it, doesn't mean people are going to be comfortable discussing it .. that doesn't take rocket science to understand. You might not mean for your comments to come across as 'bashing' but it's a sensitive issue and needs to be treated as so and that's just not possible on a board with so many people.

Especially when people think it's so easy to overcome and it's so easy to just 'get help' when it's not that simple .. nothing in life is that simple. That's like someone who's never done a drug in their life telling a drug addict "oh it's easy to get help if you really want it." Telling people they need to realize they have a problem is not the way to go about discussions like these. Especially when the person telling you you have a problem, doesn't even understand the problem to begin with.

I also know there are so called professionals out there who don't understand self injury and have made the wrong assumptions about it to their patients and have caused more harm then good in the end. You're right, we should all be mature enough to discuss such issues with an openmind .. but that's not the case here. Everyone here is not mature enough for such discussions .. this topic has come up a few times on this board and I vividly remember some of the ignorant things that were said then too. Everyone's comments about self injury tend to stick in my head and bounce around there for awhile because it's a topic that hits so close to home.

I'm not one that really gives a shit about what random message board people think about me .. I'm a much stronger person because of the shit I've gone through in my life but that doesn't change the fact that this is a very personal topic to anyone who doesn't treat it like a 'trend' or a 'fad.'

[Korzic]

"That which does not break you only makes you stronger"

I've never self harmed but I do understand how it work. I sorta understand WHY it works, not logically, but emotionally. Logically, all you do is make a few marks on your arms and the next morning the problem is still there. But I understand that in a case of a friend, cutting was using physical pain to take away emotional pain.

[Cole]

[Joey]

[Clumsy7Thief]

[Korzic]

[Joey]

[nelison]

[closeyoureyes]

It has become a fad. But you can tell from the people who actually do it, to the people who do it as a fad. The people who do it to relieve pain, hide the cuts. Its a shameful thing[or atleast it always felt that way]. People who do it as a fad, im sorry, but they really suck. Because there are people who actually need help. Doing something because other people do it, is never cool. And especially something like this.

I would know.

I cant explain why, i dont know why. It helped me, but then at the same time, it just hurt me more. I dont think you can ever understand it, if you've never done it. Not to make it something exclusive, i just dont know HOw to put it into words.

[Joey]

I'm not ashamed of myself for doing it. I hid the marks and the scars for 8 years simply because I didn't want my mom finding out because it would have killed her and I didn't want to bring anymore pain to anyone else .. so I kept the pain to myself. Rather then hurt someone else, I'd rather hurt myself.

I hid my cuts/scars more for other people's benefit .. so they wouldn't have to feel uncomfortable asking me about it, so they wouldn't have to feel anything or feel guilty etc .. if I love and trust you I don't hide my scars .. of course there's only one person I feel that comfortable around but still.

I agree, unless you've experienced it firsthand or someone close to you has gone through something similiar you just can't understand. Just like you can't understand what it feels to be drunk or high until you experience it for yourself. Or you can't understand what it feels like to lose a mother or a father unless you've lost your own parent. We can tell you how we feel, what it feels like and why we do it .. but you never truly understand something until you go through it yourself no matter how many text books you read.

[Cole]

[Sonya]

[Joey]

[Cole]

[Joey]

[Cole]

[closeyoureyes]

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