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You realize that sometimes you're not okay, you level off, you level off, you level off...

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Post by Solidarity 9-6347 »

ok here's the deal:

my roomate has been going out with this guy, sam, on and off for 5 years. tonight she found out he cheated on her at least 3 times since she's been up at school. he has also hooked up with another girl (twice...this was also one of my roomate's best friends) before when they were on a short break.

yeah, they may be in love, but this is clearly a fundamental problem

edit: in light of new information, i have to update that it was actually 2 girls, 5 times total in the last few months
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sorry, wrong forum


mods...take it away!
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Moved. :D
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Post by Bandalero »

nice, now i can post.

dump him. this is a problem he's never gonna get over. and a relationship is built on faith, what's the point of going out with this guy if you can't trust him.
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guys who cheat are such stupid fuckers.
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Jackass for cheating.

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Dump him. Men who cheat are great stupid prats
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Definitely dump him. Getting rid of the bad makes way for the one that actually deserves you.

Plus, how could you ever trust him again? I know I sure wouldn't.

My dad cheated on my mother and they stayed together and she was miserable her entire life. Don't let that happen.
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who voted no?

that guy is definately not worth it.
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if he cheated once....maybe work things out. but this guy has cheated multiple times. not cool. dump him :nod:
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anyone who cheats isn't worth it... dump him.
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Post by Solidarity 9-6347 »

Random Name wrote:who voted no?

that guy is definately not worth it.


:Johnathan:
i was kinda wondering the same thing

she's talking to him right now but for some reason i don't think she's going to dump him...if she doesn't, i'm a slap dat bitch

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or...you know..something
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ur gonna eat her?!?!
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Yeah Steph, if you want my take on it, read your LJ. Yep.
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Post by Jeni »

Cheating is wrong but you have to look at all the aspects of why he cheated. If he did it just to get a quick fuck then no, he deserves to be dumped.
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or you could dump him and move on. figuring out why is a waste of time.
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Yes, let's look at the facts we're presented.

This guy cheated on the girl multiple times. Multiple times. If it was a one time thing and realized he was wrong and regretted it, then he should have to earn her back.

It's almost like you're trying to justify that cheating on someone repeatedly because he craves attention. If you can't keep your dick in your pants after dating someone for five years, then those two don't belong together. If he values sex over the girl he supposedly loves, then he doesn't deserve the girl. The girl can do better than what she has right now, a guy that fucks multiple women as she stays faithful at a huge college.

No thanks, she should dump him.
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Post by Lando »

.:x:Marissa:x:. wrote:if he cheated once....maybe work things out.



Hell no, If he even did it once, then he's not good enough for her. She deserves better and there's better out there.


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We make mistakes, and we have to live with them... There are no get out of Jail Free Cards... Hell, I've still yet to roll doubles and get out of jail. Seriously, I haven't passed go and collected 200 dollars in WHO KNOWS HOW LONG!



But seriously, even once is too much. Kick his ass out the laundry chute.
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Post by miss_maida »

should be kicked to the curb!! cheating isn't just wrong after many times but after the very first time! how can you trust that thing if it does it time after time! He is sooo not worth it for your friend!! that girl needs to realize this before it happens again!!
and i'm supposed to be strong & have all the answers ... a cannibal in the new church of cancer ... but i'm nothing special i'm not unique ... i have many secrets & i eat the weak... and i'm at an end ... i'm at an end... and there's ... NO WAY OUT!!

i need to find my sanctuary ..... someplace safe ... gotta get this outta me ..... this is my escape


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Wow.... Lando just sounded... <i>serious</i> :wtf:


You really should ask your roommate how she would feel if it was your boyfriend who cheated on you and stuff. Because sometimes you really don't have any idea what a dumbass you can be.
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