The official CM support group thread

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 8/6/2003, 10:49 pm

Badass Cass wrote:That is exactly why my friends are so amazing. I'm normally very...let's say...irritated. Hehe.

yup that's my problem... too many people irritate me. There's only so much I can tolerate.

Joey · Post by **Joey** » 8/6/2003, 11:40 pm

J-Neli wrote:Do you have any hobbies or anything that you really enjoy doing? Cause there may be a club or a group of people in your town/school/church/etc filled with people who have the same interest. At least that's a platform for making friends. I've found that it works really well.

Was that comment directed towards me? Did my new avatar throw you off? :lol:

I live in the same city as you remember .. Welland is not the easiest place to make new friends ... I'm not in school anymore, I will not enter a church ... I'm just not good at making new friends. I'm fairly shy and quiet around people I don't know .. I'm not the type to approach a group of people and try to "fit in" and no one approaches me because they think I'll burst into tears if they speak to me .. plus I have trust issues .. I haven't met one good friend I've been able to trust wholeheartedly

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 8/6/2003, 11:46 pm

Joey, that's exactly how I feel. I have a lot of trust issues because i've had one too many friends who I've trusted too much and they turned out to not be a friend at all.

xoNoDoubt69 · Post by **xoNoDoubt69** » 8/6/2003, 11:47 pm

carnival_7 wrote:Joey, that's exactly how I feel. I have a lot of trust issues because i've had one too many friends who I've trusted too much and they turned out to not be a friend at all.

me too

committed · Post by **committed** » 8/7/2003, 12:09 am

meg: you can be my merch girl.

just because i call myself gay, doesn't mean you can go around making fun of me for it. way to be constructive.

sandsleeper · Post by **sandsleeper** » 8/7/2003, 6:34 am

wait... i thought al was only gay on thursdays.... no?

nikki4982 · Post by **nikki4982** » 8/7/2003, 7:40 am

xonodoubt69 wrote:
carnival_7 wrote:Joey, that's exactly how I feel. I have a lot of trust issues because i've had one too many friends who I've trusted too much and they turned out to not be a friend at all.

me too

Melissa, I'm sure you already know this, but you don't have to worry about me turning out like that.

*hugs*

dream in japanese · Post by **dream in japanese** » 8/7/2003, 7:57 am

sandsleeper wrote:wait... i thought al was only gay on thursdays.... no?

I might be wrong but I've heard other wise.
I heard that he's also gay on Wednesdays from 8am-noon :nod:

Joey · Post by **Joey** » 8/7/2003, 10:52 am

carnival_7 wrote:Joey, that's exactly how I feel. I have a lot of trust issues because i've had one too many friends who I've trusted too much and they turned out to not be a friend at all.

Exactly .. that's the worst .. when you finally open up and start to trust and feel secure with someone ... then it's like a wake up call and you realize they were never your friend to begin with :neutral:

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 8/7/2003, 10:52 am

It's hard to trust people after you've had so many shitty "friends", I know. But eventually you will find some. If I can make friends, so can you!

mosaik · Post by **mosaik** » 8/7/2003, 11:21 am

i think it can be very easy to meet people as long as you're open-minded and keep a positive attitude. I am only trying to be constructive and helpful here, but Joey, if your new avatar represents the vibe you're putting out in the real world then you may be shooting yourself in the foot.

it's true that some people are jerks, but if you're judging them before you ever give them a chance then of course you're going to feel like they're jerks if/when they don't respond positively to some percieved bitterness or closedness on your part. again i'm not trying to condescend or act superior, i'm just trying to put things in perspective.

i'd offer my advice to the introverts, because i'm shy myelf, but i'm not sure if any of you want to hear it.

Henrietta · Post by **Henrietta** » 8/7/2003, 11:37 am

Introverted, annoyed people can have friends too. I do.

mosaik · Post by **mosaik** » 8/7/2003, 11:53 am

they sure can. but i would argue that having a closed mind about the people in the world is definately counter-productive to the cause of making new friends.

and it's always nice to make new friends.

lora · Post by **lora** » 8/7/2003, 12:35 pm

hmm. so i need to rant. whatever. if you have any advice, i'd love to hear it.

one of my best friends is a guy who i absolutely adore. i've wanted him for a good 7 months now. just these past couple of weeks he's been letting me get closer with him on a more personal/physical level. there's a huge problem though, he has a girlfriend. she's not really all that nice to him, but he likes her anyway. just last week him and i were at a party where we both put some chemicals into our bloodstream (go figure). we headed down to a dock where we started talking, and then he eventually kissed me. that's fine. the next day i called him and had to tell him what happened. he was kind of upset.

his friends have been telling me that he wants me, but i don't know anymore. things are kind of weird between us, and there's that fact that he has a girlfriend. i don't know. it seems to me that if he did want me, he'd break up with the girl. so it really looks like he doesn't, and i'm just here to entertain him. i'm trying to decide if i should say something to him, or get mad at him, or just let it go. i don't anymore.

but i must say, he's the best thing in my life.

so i guess my questions are: does it look like he wants me? if so, why the fuck doesn't he break up with his girlfriend?

oh, and by the way, good luck to everyone with their friend issues. i know what it's like.

mosaik · Post by **mosaik** » 8/7/2003, 12:57 pm

Lora - maybe he wants to be with you and his girlfriend at the same time. I dated a girl for two years, and i love her, but i wanted to be with other people. Maybe he's going through that.

Even if he does break up with her, my advice would be to take it slow. You don't want to be a rebound girl or a spur of the moment thing and then find out he still wants to be with her. If you're not sure about the vibe he's putting down, my advice would be to give him some distance and see what he does with that. Don't just hang around as his plan B - get ready to move on with your life if he was just leading you on. i know it sounds morbid but sometimes it's best to prepare for the worst.

hope some of this helps you figure it out. sounds like a pretty tough situation.

superrgirll · Post by **superrgirll** » 8/7/2003, 12:59 pm

maybe he is just a manwhore.

Joey · Post by **Joey** » 8/7/2003, 1:21 pm

um my avatar has nothing to do with why I have trust issues with friends .. it's a song I was obsessed with at the time it was made .. there's no in depth meaning behind it :lol:

megxyz128 · Post by **megxyz128** » 8/7/2003, 1:29 pm

but, but

Mine is pretty self explanatory .. I hate people .. and at the time I was motivated by the song by 3 Day's Grace ..

Joey · Post by **Joey** » 8/7/2003, 1:32 pm

I've been given plenty of reasons for why I feel the way I do .. the inspiration came from the song, with the title "I hate everything about you" and at the time I was feeling shitty because of my so called friends ... so my avatar was born .. there is NO in depth meaning behind my avatar other than a spur of the moment idea born from a shitty conversation and a shitty day .. crikey

lora · Post by **lora** » 8/7/2003, 1:35 pm

doug, thanks for the advice. it's nice to hear it from someone who knows what they're talking about, and happens to be a male. and yeah, i've kind of prepared myself for the worst.