happeningfish wrote:oh god, i just emailed one of my roommates to basically tell her straight up that i'm taking the bedroom she wants because i'm a legal tenant and i've chosen my room, and when she DOES eventually sign the lease she's free to any AVAILABLE room. That's fair, right? I made the email as friendly as humanly possible and i just fucking pray that she doesn't make a big stink about it.
AGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
mal says:
alex i got your email
mal says:
just read it now
alex says:
hi
mal says:
need to sleep so can't stay i'm sorry
mal says:
i'm glad you're doing well
mal says:
i am too
alex says:
awesome
mal says:
did noémie not talk to you about the room situation?
alex says:
we discussed it
mal says:
we thought it was a really fair way to do it
mal says:
we thought you would too
alex says:
i feel that what i mentioned in the email was pretty much the situation
mal says:
i don't really think it's fair though alex
alex says:
i don't think it's fair that you can come in last and lay claim to a taken room
alex says:
in my opinion
mal says:
it's not taken alex though... no one has moved in and just because your going next weekend we all agreed before we left that we'd pick from a hat or whatever
mal says:
even becca, maya and nadege did that
alex says:
i never agreed to that
alex says:
i need to move into a room next weekend
mal says:
and i told noé i'd know next wednesday and that's fine
mal says:
she told me shes going to also
alex says:
i'm not drawing for a room
mal says:
why not?
alex says:
because the other two tenants have chosen their rooms and i have chosen mine
mal says:
i can't talk about this anymore tonight
mal says:
i know what you feel
mal says:
and you know how i feel
mal says:
we'll discuss more later
mal says:
goodnite and don't hate me but i don't think ti's fair and noé agreed with me that picking from a hat (even her too) was more fair
alex says:
look, the fact of that matter is that i'm moving in
mal says:
yes i know
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and i'll know next wednesday
mal says:
BEFORE you move in!
alex says:
know what
mal says:
know when i'm signing the lease
mal says:
we can pick from a hat tomorrow if we have to
alex says:
that's all very nice but as far as i am concerned i'm moving into my apartment into a room that no tenant has taken
alex (i love you but it doesn't matter) says:
i'm not discussing this with you any more
mal says:
alex... i don't want to fight
mal says:
you’re my friend
alex says:
neither do i
alex says:
but this is the situation
mal says:
both you and i wanted that room and i thought you considered me a roomate even though i couldn't be on the lease
mal says:
isn't that right?
alex says:
regardless of why or why not you haven't signed the lease the fact is that you haven't
alex says:
and it doesn't really matter to me why or when or whatever
alex says:
but when you do, that room will be taken
alex says:
and you will just be entering the situation late and that's how it is
mal says:
alex we wouldn't have had this place had i not thought of asking nadege for their landlord's number
mal says:
i was in from the start
mal says:
i went to look at the place with you
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this is not fair alex
mal says:
aside from the legal things
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we're friends
alex says:
it's not fair that you reserved the option of ditching us by not signing the lease when we did
alex says:
REGARDLESS of whether you would have ever actually done that
alex says:
we put up with that because we had to and we understood it wasn't your decision
mal says:
i couldn't sign the lease until now
mal says:
i'm sorry
alex says:
i know
alex says:
it's not your fault
mal says:
yes you put up with it alex
alex says:
but this is how it is
mal says:
but i was there from the start
mal says:
noé agreed to pick from a hat
mal says:
so did i
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so why can't you too?
alex says:
because i don't agree with the principle
mal says:
noé told me that you wouldn't discuss the rooms with me until i signed the lease
mal says:
okay i understand that
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and i think thats a lot more fair
mal says:
you wouldn't have this apt without me alex
mal says:
i don't agree with your principle
alex says:
which is that you should be able to lay claim to a room in MY apartment???
alex says:
you are confused i think
mal says:
it's our apartment
mal says:
and i'm not laying claim
alex says:
you're not a tenant
mal says:
i'm saying PICK FROM A HAT
mal says:
to be fair
alex says:
HOW
mal says:
over the internet
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have a third unrelated party
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so what if i became one on wednesday?
alex says:
then you'd take a room that was available
mal says:
that's not fair alex
alex says:
it's absolutely fair
mal says:
i thought you were my friend?
mal says:
we've been through a lot
alex says:
this has nothing to do with friendship
alex says:
and you know it
mal says:
yes it does
mal says:
trust
mal says:
and right now i don't trust you
mal says:
i'm not discussing this anymore with you
mal says:
until next week
alex says:
i'm just really upset over this whole thing
mal says:
goodnite
alex says:
i'm going to montreal next week
alex says:
and my stuff is going in a room
mal says:
if you had any idea how upsetting this has been for me
mal says:
too
mal says:
alex
mal says:
i love you
mal says:
you are my friend
mal says:
but i cannot discuss this with you any further
mal says:
tonight you have hurt my feelings
alex says:
it's a goddamn bedroom
alex says:
get over it
mal says:
it's the moral of the whole thing
alex says:
yes, you put us through so much crap
alex says:
and you know it
alex says:
and we sucked it up
mal says:
thanks
--mal appears to be offline and may not reply--
I AM SO FUCKING ANGRY ABOUT THIS WHOLE THING.