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this is a semi-sequel to my "growing up" thread, but I felt it warranted it's own thread.

*prays he isn't attacked for spamming the CM *

anyways, I was chatting with my roomate last nite; he's a fantastic guy, great musician, nicest guy you'll ever meet; but he's got awful luck with the ladies. With all I've learned from Reno, I've taken him under my wing the best I can

But anyways, he was saying how complicated it is to get a girl, and I retorted with the obvious "it ins't much easier once you have one." it was then i realized that. with everything, comes inherent problems. Confusion, crossed wires, stressing over nothing; we're awlays gonna have that. all we can do is just realize that, and make the decision to still be happy. pushing 20 yrs of age, I've finally realized that I'm even more naive than I thought i was about life, about love-- about everything.

Me and my gal are both totally into each other, but since were both leaving in a few months for university, and she still lives with her folks and siblings, she still wants to do the home thing, and have me. As a selfish guy, I considered breaking up with her, but then I realized I didn't want just some girlfriend-- I want her. So I'm gonna take the time we have together, and have a blast with it; but also not forget that I have a life outside of her, and have as much fun as possible even when she's not there.

Does this make sense, is it a good philosophy? I trust you guys opinions more than most anyone I know, so lay some thoughts and advice on me, fellars...

long distance fucks everything up...it is possible but dont expect it to be perfect

*ATTACKAGE!!*

My sis has a long distance relationship with her b/f and they are doing really well. She has fun when he isn't around and he does the same. They are working out real good, so I think it's a good philosphy best of luck to you bud.

I'm still up in the air about distance; I'm still up in the air about everything, really. I'm just trying my best to enjoy today, and I'll take May as it comes, ya know.

Makes sense.

trentm32 wrote:I'm still up in the air about distance; I'm still up in the air about everything, really. I'm just trying my best to enjoy today, and I'll take May as it comes, ya know.

not wanting to scare you, but if you've never done long-distance before, it's very hard, especially if you've been with the person physically for a while. but whatever happens, i'm sure it'll work out for you.

two things that I can contribute.

I've been with my girlfriend for a little more than 2.5 years. For the last year and a half (minus the summer months) we have lived in different cities, 2 hours apart. That's not a huge distance, but when you don't have a car and must rely on the bus it is still a good distance. My advice is that if both people want it to work it will. The moment one person has doubts or thinks it will not work, or decides it's not working, it will not work. You make of it what you want, but both of you have to put 100%. Also, never feel guilty about having fun without her. The best thing after an enjoyable night with friends is to get to go home and tell your significant other about your fun (in mine and my gf's case we chat on msn daily), and she'll do the same, and it'll feel like you just enjoyed two evenings in one, if that makes sense.

Also, maybe I've been lucky, but me and my girlfriend have never been in a fight or squabble. There hasn't been any confusion about things because we've been open and honest with eachother and ultimately because we're so open we have been able to nip things before they even become the smallest of issues. Don't get me wrong, we disagree about things (mostly opinion stuff, nothing relationship based) and all that stuff, but it has never been anything that has affected the relationship.

Lately I've been going through the same "I'm growing up" phase as you have, Trent. Just remember that you make life what you want it to be. Life is short and you want to make the most of everything you can, and whatever it is you decide make sure you put 100% of yourself into it.

Hope this helps a bit...

you've never had a fight? i don't know, but that just doesn't sound healthy to me.

Yeah man, I've gotta agree with Jim. If you two care for each other and are willing to make it work it will.

i dunno, i was in a relationship that lasted nearly a year and we never had a single argument or squabble, not even a minor one

nope not one fight. And in my opinion it's fine. Why fabricate something to fight about just so you can say you've had a fight? Seems rather pointless to me.

maybe i'm just difficult.

sand and i never fought. well, once, but for good reason.

i think it just depends on what aspects of each other's personalities you bring out

Might be. Me and my gf are extremely similar, and have the same interests, and in the places where we haven't had to same interest we have tried eacothers interest out for the sake of the other. For example, my gf would go to the driving range with me to hit golf balls and I started to watch Corronation St. It's give and take and it works well.

Wow, don't shoot me, ok?

The Prophet (Gordon B. Hinkley) is a very old dude. 84 or something. His wife just died last year. He speaks twice a year, or more to everyone. Anyhow, he said him and his wife never ONCE in like 60+ years of marriage, did they have a fight. That is just....wow. So, it can be done

trentm32 wrote:
anyways, I was chatting with my roomate last nite; he's a fantastic guy, great musician, nicest guy you'll ever meet;

This thread started out so gay... I was scared to continue reading.

So I'll just assume Trent is now gay.

Lando wrote:

trentm32 wrote:
anyways, I was chatting with my roomate last nite; he's a fantastic guy, great musician, nicest guy you'll ever meet;

This thread started out so gay... I was scared to continue reading.

So I'll just assume Trent is now gay.

pfft; Lando, you're just jealous, bro. You wanna GET eith THIS! *does sexy dance* Bladaw!

dude
are you promoting your bladder or something?!
cuz like i dont think thats a good way to pick up folks

and yes
saman and i fought once
and for very good reason as she said