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Alrighty, my step-brother moved out a month or so ago, to a house a few miles away with some friends. One of them is dropping out on the deal (he got engaged), so they need a new roommate. The house is an alright place, even a little bit closer to university than I am now. I'd have a smaller room than here at my dad's, but rent's cheap (rounds out to about $130 bucks a piece).

The only prob is that my step-brother and I are, as most of you know, not on the closest of terms as we once were. When he moved out, he pretty much dropped all of his old friends (me included). We still chat a bit, but we're not that close anymore.

Anyways, they offered me the room, and I don't know what to do. My dad (whom I currently live with) is probably gonna move pretty soon (not too far, just across town), and I don't want to move again. Me and a friend of mine (Scrub) plan on splitting an apartment sometime in the next few months, so I thought about moving over there for now, and leaving when my bud get's able to go in with me.

I just don't know what to do.

I talked to my friends about it (the ones he somewhat dropped, along with me) and they think it's a pretty good idea. They said they'd be cool coming over there; and Scrub practically lives at my house now, and he'd be cool over there with me, so I'd still have my friends. And some mutal friends of me and my brothers think it's a great idea, so they want me to move in.

I just don't know what to do.

Give me some ideas, guys. I just have a couple more days to think about it, and figure it out. Gimme some advice, guys.

Do it. Maybe you'll be close again. Maybe not. It's not like you have to best friends just cause you share a house.

In order to be happy with moving out you need to be able to get along well withthe people you're going to be living with. If the relationship with your brother is cold and rather awkward. Don't do it. You're gonna make his and your life a living hell and probably ram the wedge between you deeper than it was before. Also, if you're unhappy there, your school work will probably suffer as you'll find excuses not to be in the house while they're around and thus you wont study either. (speaking from experience I've been thru it all before)

What you really have to do is break it up into pros and cons.

The biggest pro of living at home is that its CHEAP. Even if you do move out in a few months... thats a cupla hundred youve saved before moving out anyways.

I can't decide this for you obviously. There also comes the responsibility of house work too. If youre step brother is a total neat freak and youre like living like a pig in a sty. Youre gonna clash badly.

I'm sorta running with my thoughts as they come up so excuse the disjointed paragraph process

So... the 2 big C's you need to consider in said order.

Compatibility
Cost

If you have ANY doubts with these... especially with the first one. Forget it. It won't work and it will just be a miserable experience.

ya I say wait until your friend is ready and get a place with him. No point moving into this place and then moving again when your friend is ready.

Well... I'm gonna do it. Me and my bro sat down and talked a while, and we decided that it would probably all work out. Here's hoping. I'll be in eithir the next week or so.

I'll keep you guys updated if things go awry...

All you have to do is be able to be civil to eachother to live together.

Cass wrote:All you have to do is be able to be civil to eachother to live together.

Has to be more than that. If you aren't compatible, it won't work no matter how hard you try

doo it. just doo it toot.

The Reno has spoken; I must adhere.

No, I live with three people. I'm not particularly fond of the people I live with. We get along, that's all we need. Don't fool yourself into thinking you have to be best friends with all the people you live with because, surprise, that's never gonna happen. Even if you think it is, you'll end up not getting along with some people that you thought you would.

Cass wrote:No, I live with three people. I'm not particularly fond of the people I live with. We get along, that's all we need. Don't fool yourself into thinking you have to be best friends with all the people you live with because, surprise, that's never gonna happen. Even if you think it is, you'll end up not getting along with some people that you thought you would.

I agree, but theres a difference between compatability and getting along

Ok, if you want to think so. I'm not compatible with them. We don't click or have fun friendships. I have that with other people who don't live with me.

You dont need to click. you just need to be able to live with someone without wanting to tear your hair out daily.

I think the biggest thing is the level of cleanliness you like living in (which Campbell mentioned in his first post)... Monkey gets SO angry because he's the only one who ever cleans up.

Yeah that is a big bone of contention with most roommates. Mine are pretty clean so I don't have a problem with it. But my friends *shudder* She is daily yelling at them telling them to take their turns doing shit. I do have a few run ins with some of my roommates, especially about the oven and her continual use and continual refusal to clean it. But I don't worry, cause I have the same problems with my sisters and brother at home. They don't clean anything, ever.

i'm pretty bad for stuff like that, i don't thin ki'm that bad, but i coudl definatly see myself getting on some people's nerves

All my stuff is over there (some friends of mine are decorating me in; they want to make a big deal out of me moving out, so they're painting the room, and decorating it with my stuff right now. I had to carry it all over there, and put it in the living room. Here's hoping itll bre a GOOD surprise. They know me well enough, so maybe they'll do alright.) I saw them when I was dropping my stuff off, and they looked like two little camo chicks; covered in a pretty cool shade of dark green. So maybe it'll be ayite. Tonight'll be my first night there!