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What do you look for in a guy?(or woman in somecases ) I mean, Do you go for looks? Or Do you go for whats on the inside? Does the guy have to be great looking? Please answer me. I want to know.

Looks aren't important at all to me, personally. What matters is how you get along with the person, how they treat you, and things like that. Looks are just a bonus.

... that being said, I have the most gorgeous boyfriend a girl could ask for. I got lucky.

Well, here's how it goes. Initially, I'm attracted to a guy through a combination of his personality and maybe some favourable physical traits. If it goes farther, I mean when you really know you like someone, then they might not have the physical appearance that you usually go for but there comes a point where you find everything about them attractive because you are attracted to them as a whole, and if anything about them was different, then they just wouldn't be the same person. Was that too confusing? I dunno.

happeningfish wrote:favourable physical traits.

as in the bulge in the pants.

johnny, stuff it well, or wear tight pants.

looks matter somewhat, you have to be attracted to the person .. there has to be chemistry .. i went out with someone once for their personality, with no attraction and it didn't last .. there has to be a physical connection as well as a mental connection

Joey wrote:looks matter somewhat, you have to be attracted to the person

If you arn't really attracted to them in the first place, nothing is going to happen. We live in a shallow world. Sorry, but its true.
What keeps them there is their personality though. Lack of intellectual thought is not sexy.

That's so untrue. My first love was a guy that I wasn't attracted to at all when I first met him. Heck, I thought he was ugly (and I also thought he was really old from his looks, but it turns out he was in my grade )... but we started dating, and I fell in love with him, then thought he was beautiful.

i think everyone will agree that looks aren't everything but they do matter to a certain extent. you have to be attracted to them to want to go out with the person but personality is what keeps you with them.

happeningfish wrote:Well, here's how it goes. Initially, I'm attracted to a guy through a combination of his personality and maybe some favourable physical traits. If it goes farther, I mean when you really know you like someone, then they might not have the physical appearance that you usually go for but there comes a point where you find everything about them attractive because you are attracted to them as a whole, and if anything about them was different, then they just wouldn't be the same person. Was that too confusing? I dunno.

that's pretty much how i work too.

Here's my problem... (before i start you might want to note that i am a guy):

Before this school year, i was kind of a nerdish looking fellow. I mean i wasn't ugly. Some girls even asked me out. Unfortunately they were the ones that i actually really disliked, a combination of ugliness and annoyingness. But anyways. this year i got contacts. And to tell the truth, i do look much better. I know that a lot of girls think i look good. Which is awesome. The thing is... i am not too interesting. I know it sounds weird. I have the complete opposite problem then what you usually hear. I can sometimes carry on a conversation quite nicely. But sometimes the really good looking girls just somehow intimidate me and i find it hard to talk. I have also never had a girlfriend... which i think might shock wuite a lot of people.

Yep. i can be pretty shallow, but atleast i'm being honest.

Oh and by the way... i'm only 14.

yes that makes perfect sense to me, alex

that is how i feel too

bethany also prefers the big package look.

heheh

that is an added plus.

I can't say that looks dont matter to me at all. There has to be a physical attraction of some sort. However, personality can definitely make a person more attractive.
With that said, here's my list

-he has to be smart...not school wise but he has to have common sense and be able to have interesting conversations
-athletic ... thats a big turn on
-he has to make me laugh yet know how to be serious too
-he has to be confident, not care about what other people think of him
-good sense of style
-treat me well, with respect for my differences

^ IF THIS IS YOU GIVE ME A CALL

Alrighty, my list of...um...qualities. Here goes:

-Intellectual, artistic...the good stuff!
-Knows how to be both serious and funny.
-Relatively okay looks...looks aren't eveything, but they are part of the equation. This includes a good sense of style.
-Romantic...
-Tolerant of others.
-Honest, trustworthy...whatever.
-Able to handle me and all of my crazy mood swings.

Well, I think that's the gist of it.

guys with tattoos and piercings is a total turn on.

YAAA

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmm LIP RING

It's a combination of the two at first. But if they lack in the personality then they just aren't going to get very far. But if they lack physical attractiveness, I would have to be attracted to their personality, which would take some getting to know. I guess. I can't explain it.

OLPMazurite wrote:heheh

that is an added plus.

told you....start stuffin guys.

This guy kept after me for about 3 months to go out on a date with him, personality wise he was the greatest person and made me laugh, looks wise, there was just NO connection and no attraction whatsoever, so finally I let the personality win and I agreed to go out with him .. we went out for about 9 months .. and it just didn't work .. we didn't have that physical connection, or at least I didn't. I want to be able to look at the person and just melt, and feel butterflies in my stomach when they smile at me .. so looks aren't the most important thing, but they DO matter, anyone who says they don't matter at all, is lying

There just has to be that spark physically .. you have to connect on both levels