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The thing i am afraid of is that she will think of me as a loser if she finds out that i wasn't the most popular guy in middle school. I know that if that does happen, then she's not worth my time and all... but still, it would suck

And i was wondering... if things did start up between us... would she want to meet my 'friends' because that would be kind of embarrassing

A lot of girls this year have kind of had their eye one me i've noticed... i got contacts over the summer... so that seemed to have helped alot. But i think a lot of them think i am more popular than i really am.

God... i over analyze everything.

wow, someone's a little cocky.

Popularity means nothing.

You're kidding, right?

Me?

Yeah.

Popularity is everything in highschool. No matter how great someone is, if they're not equal or greater than the other in popularity, they have no chance.

So, if you felt kind of attracted to some girl that was below your status, you wouldn't go out with her? I know you're right, I spent SO much time trying to be "in" with the cool people. But now when I look back on it, it was such a waste of time. Such a huge waste of time.

I'm not saying I'm like that. But in general people are like that.

Hell, I'm on the bottom of the popularity totem poll, so that's not a problem.

But if, for example, I actually got the chance to talk to a popular girl. Even if this girl and I turned out to really like eachother, she'd never give me a chance, probably mostly for fear of being mocked by her peers.

Then there's the whole looks thing, but we won't get into that.

Rob, ... don't say that! You sound like me. That's no good.

I think the infamous Matt might like me now. oh my.

Hmmmm, I definitely agree about the popularity thing. At my highschool, people tend to date people from their own 'social status/circles'. I personally don't believe in this at all.....to me, looks and popularity aren't important. If they have a good personality and treat you right, then why does it matter who they hang out with or what they look like? And to all you guys who think you don't have a chance with hot girls, you are wrong, because 90% of girls dont care about looks!

^ I am part of that shallow 10%

.:x:Marissa:x:. wrote:And to all you guys who think you don't have a chance with hot girls, you are wrong, because 90% of girls dont care about looks!

So what you're saying is that roughly 89% of girls are liars?

what do u mean???

That 89% of girls lied when they said they don't care about looks.

Well let me be more specific, i guess 90% of girls (well at least the ones I know) care about personality more than anything. Personality can make someone attractive even if they aren't physically. I'm not gonna lie, I have to be physically attracted to the person a tiny bit, but in the end, it doesn't matter.

But when it comes to the dating game, looks always come first. Unless you're friends with someone first, there's no way to judge personality before looks.

Ya I suppose you are right. I guess it's hard for me to agree because all the guys I have dated have been my really good friends first. But your totally right. Looks ARE what make first impressions.

Everyone is shallow, they just don't like to admit it! (go stereotype!)
Its looks that gets you in, its a personality that lets you stay.
Thats the difference.

.:x:Marissa:x:. wrote:Looks ARE what make first impressions.

Merlins Beard!! That must mean that I make a horrible first impression!!

Well, I would like to concur with Marissa when she says looks don't matter. Like I've said, I've consistantly been scoring with the hotter girls in life, and I'm no looker. It really is about personality. If you're pretty but can't hold a conversation, you'll never get a girl, but if you have marginal good looks and can talk to people, you score much more than you think you would. It really works out like this.

Anyways, if that doesn't work, just grow your hair out long. If there's any curls in it, women will play with it all the time. Strangers come up to me at concerts just to play with it, then I talk to them. It's pretty nice, I must say. So develop a personality or grow your hair out, then you'll be getting women. It works.