Bad days thread

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 5/24/2003, 3:08 pm

Evil is not one large entity, but a series of small wrongs that pass unrighted.

nelison · Post by **nelison** » 5/24/2003, 6:42 pm

in a sense yes, but eventually you should be able to just laugh it off and realize its just not your day and try to make the most of it. Unless you got hit by a car, or fell from a building or something that seriously causes you harm it really isn't that bad.

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 5/24/2003, 6:54 pm

Are you even human? Shut up.

nelison · Post by **nelison** » 5/24/2003, 7:09 pm

finding emo · Post by **finding emo** » 5/24/2003, 7:22 pm

You know what? The majority of people on this board have problems and have bad days, but will never tell anyone else what their bad day was really about. I, myself, was raped as a child and am, therefore, taking my dad and brothers to court to get them in jail. My mother does not believe me and therefore I have no family. Will I say, "I had a bad day because I didn't get to talk to my boyfriend?" YES. There's always a story behind why something makes someone feel bad, so leave them complain about whatever they want because you have the oppurtunity to do so yourself.

happening fish · Post by **happening fish** » 5/24/2003, 7:30 pm

Thank you...

committed · Post by **committed** » 5/25/2003, 1:09 am

i'm still not sure why i was told fuck you

areusad831 · Post by **areusad831** » 5/25/2003, 7:10 am

Jeff, you were told "fuck you" because of your post "I flipped on the happy switch" or whatever you said, because it seemed like you were mocking my (bethany's) post about how when people tell me to "cheer up right now" it's like they think people have some sort of "happy switch" that they can turn on and make everything better.

so maybe you weren't trying to be rude and immature, but Alex, Sand and I both took it the wrong way and thought you were trying to mock me for what I said.

and val, yeah, I agree 100% with what you said. :nod:

Jim: It seems like you have a lot of good intentions, but to be completely honest with you, it seems as if you jump to conclusions and assume things before you have heard the whole story. I find it much easier to empathize with a person rather than telling them, "it's not as bad as you think, things could be worse, etc, etc" People don't want to hear that, they want you to understand where they're coming from and show some sympathy. :nod:

these are just my opinions, let nobody take offense to what i have just said

-Bethany

committed · Post by **committed** » 5/25/2003, 7:16 am

i was simply implying that i think there is a happy switch

areusad831 · Post by **areusad831** » 5/25/2003, 7:17 am

oh, ok
we took it the wrong way
i apologize on my behalf

nelison · Post by **nelison** » 5/25/2003, 9:30 am

Naveeder Val wrote:You know what? The majority of people on this board have problems and have bad days, but will never tell anyone else what their bad day was really about. I, myself, was raped as a child and am, therefore, taking my dad and brothers to court to get them in jail. My mother does not believe me and therefore I have no family. Will I say, "I had a bad day because I didn't get to talk to my boyfriend?" YES. There's always a story behind why something makes someone feel bad, so leave them complain about whatever they want because you have the oppurtunity to do so yourself.

ok did I not say that certain problems can be considered as bad days? I mentioned getting hit by a car, and I'm sure everyone can agree that being raped and the effects from that can be considered along the same level.

I was merely saying that people think that stupid things constitute a bad day, like going to the store and finding our they're sold out of pringles or something incredibly "horrible" like that. There's a huge difference between being raped and not being able to go read a magazine in a store.

That's the problem though Bethany, people have to start realizing that their lives are not so bad. I'd love to put some people here in Somalia or The Congo and let them see what a bad day really is. It is easier to sympathize with someone, but why express false sympathy in a lot of occasions? "Aww your daddy wouldn't let you read a magazine, poor you, I'm sorry to hear that". If I had people saying trying to sympathize with me for things like that I'd have to wonder about them.

You say people don't wanna hear "Things could be worse". So I guess that's kinda like hiding the truth from people then right? It's sort of like "you know what? your problem is by far the worse problem I've ever heard, I don't think it could get any worse than that". I find it hard to believe that anyone would prefer to be lied to.

The fact is certain things are understandable to complain about, but 99% of them are not. As much as you can post about how horrible your day has been remember that in a lot of cases yours is incredibly minute compared to billions of people in this world.

Joey · Post by **Joey** » 5/25/2003, 11:57 am

Ugh .. why does this always happen whenever a thread like this is created .. nobody can ever just come and rant about anything .. yes obviously we've got it better than a lot of people but then again .. most people on here don't go into great detail about WHY they feel their life is crap .. I for one don't feel comfortable pouring my heart out on a message board about stuff like that because of people like Jim who will take it lightly and tell me "hey you should be happy because it's a beautiful day out" ... Jim if you have nothing to rant about and you're life is so great then I'm very happy for you .. if people want to rant about their bad day, let them, without criticizing because you don't know the whole story .. a series of bad things can equal one hell of a bad day .. sure we're not starving in Africa and we understand there's people who have it worse but lay off already .. the worst thing you can do when someone is upset and venting is tell them "oh that's not really that bad" .. the worst thing. We're not saying we have it OH so bad .. people are simply venting about something that may have frustrated them. I mean no offense but who are you to say what's worthy of being called a bad day .. let people feel what they feel .. if threads like this upset you so much then why do you continue to read them?

xoNoDoubt69 · Post by **xoNoDoubt69** » 5/25/2003, 12:05 pm

Well said Joey :nod:

finding emo · Post by **finding emo** » 5/25/2003, 12:22 pm

Joey wrote:Ugh .. why does this always happen whenever a thread like this is created .. nobody can ever just come and rant about anything .. yes obviously we've got it better than a lot of people but then again .. most people on here don't go into great detail about WHY they feel their life is crap ...

Thats what I was trying to point out

nelison · Post by **nelison** » 5/25/2003, 12:51 pm

I know there is a history behind every story but in some cases there really isn't, and its those cases that I hate hearing people bitch about.

Joe and Val I understand there is more behind it, and I was not refering to either of you in my posts, trust me, you guys never complain and I know there is history behind any complaints. My comments were directed towards the people who find tiny stupid things that result in them having a bad day. I apologize to both of you.

Joey · Post by **Joey** » 5/25/2003, 1:20 pm

J-Neli wrote:I know there is a history behind every story but in some cases there really isn't, and its those cases that I hate hearing people bitch about.

How do you know though? It's impossible for you to know if there may be more behind what a person is ranting about? Maybe someone had an incredibly bad day and just a bunch of minor things came to mind that frustrated the hell out of them .. you may only read about one of those things. The point is, you have no idea what could really be behind a person's rant .. so it's best not to judge, even the minor rants. Plus if you hate hearing people bitch, then you should probably stay out of threads specifically made to bitch and rant.

nelison · Post by **nelison** » 5/25/2003, 1:48 pm

people can bitch and rant just as much as I can, it works both ways. If you'd like to rant and rave than I will as well

Axtech · Post by **Axtech** » 5/25/2003, 2:03 pm

I think the point is that different people see things in a different light. Someone could be in a depressed mood that makes them feel horrible about something small, regardless of how their problems scale up against those of the rest of the world. Telling someone that the thing that's bothering them is just minute doesn't help. It's human to feel depressed at times, and telling someone that they're depressed for nothing can make them feel even more depressed.

Can you honestly tell me that you've never felt down before? It's a healthy human condition to have bad days. Without having days that we feel bad about, we can't have good days. There would be nothing to compare to to make us say "I'm happy, this is a good day" if we've never had bad days.

areusad831 · Post by **areusad831** » 5/25/2003, 5:04 pm

chemical imbalances also are not easily controlled by thinking about how bad other people have it. sometimes people are depressed for no reason at all and they have a bad day b/c they are depressed. i have no clue why you make it your priority to tell us how bad people have it in Somolia or wherever. Yea they do have it horrible but this is where we are right now and people must deal with their own problems even if they are not as bad as problems people have over seas, etc. I agree that if you dont want to hear people rant about a bad day start your own good day thread or something.

committed · Post by **committed** » 5/25/2003, 6:11 pm

no harm done by the way