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Thanks for all the kind words, folks. You don't know how much this kind of support helps.

well i read but i really suck with advice so yeah...

Woah. That was quick.

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I'd be lying if I said I could relate to what you're going through, so, uh, I hope things get better

^^And that is why I will never work in any sort of public relations office.

Axtech wrote:Woah. That was quick.

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I've essentially been going through the same situation slowly for the past 4 years.

Maybe it was just Queens? Or you had these great expectations that you would be bombarded with work before you even started and that led to get the anxiety attacks once school actually started? Maybe you should have taken a week off or something and just let your profs know your situation. I guess it's kinda late now but that's would have been my advice.

Good luck, Rob.

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Wow that is rough. I'm not in university yet, but I know what you mean about stress and all that stuff. It sounds like you were just expecting too much of yourself and too concerned with proving how smart you were and impressing people and staying smart and all, that you subconsiously pushed yourself too hard. Basically you burned yourself out and over analysed it all, the rumours about university and the sudden abrupt change from cozy little highschool to the real world just overwhelmed you. I think you made a smart move taking a year off, just try to calm down and remember to have some fun when you do go back, go to clubs hang with friends or the stress will all pile on again and it might be worse than before. Queens will be waiting for you next year when you decide to back. If you wanna rant or talk or whatever you can add me to msn at rusty_me452@hotmail.com

I totally respect that, Robbo, I don't blame ya a bit, bro. I considered taking a year off before I started college, and I have a lot of friends that did just that. It's a mature decision man, to realize something like that, and have the guts and maturity to make that decision. Kudos my friend.

I think I said my bit already

P.S. This is shitty timing but my MSN is broked

I know it seems rather terrible Rob, but don't worry yourself over this. You'll be back there next year. You went into school with impossible expectations and your worked yourself up so badly that it was causing you physical and mental problems, which isn't worth it.

Take the year off. You just need a break, seeing as you worked your ass off for so long to get where you're at. They will take you back next year, so just take the time to take a break. Look at it this way. After you graduate from college, you'll never have a chance to take time off until you retire from your job, so this could be good for you.

You'll be back next year man, so don't let it eat away at you. And next year, you'll know what to expect from school, so you won't get so stressed out about everything.

As far as I've known, you've always had your shit straight, so you'll be fine.

On top of the "don't care so much about what other people think" thing that everyone's been saying, my best advice is (and I don't know if anyone said this yet cos I kinda skimmed all the long posts past the first) when you DO get back to school... just take it one day at a time. Don't think so far ahead.

Also, remember... it's just school. Many many MANY important, well-paid people have skipped the whole college/university thing. It's not for everybody... and yes, that includes smart people.

I knew someone at university who dropped out for personal reasons and ended up getting such a good job that she never came back! I also know some people that took off the time they needed and came back and did really well. Well done for making such a hard decision and make the most of your time off so you're ready to start again next year totally refreshed.

Do you have any plans for the year now Rob? Maybe some travelling? or just work?

First of all much credit to making the right decision even if it was a very difficult one. From my point of view I spent the first two years communiting to school and to tell you the truth it is horrible. You have a lot of added stress even it doesnt seem like it such as these long breaks. If you are going to go the communiter route you need to avoid those long breaks but that is nearly impossible. I found going away to school being much more relaxing even if i don't have that many true friends it is still easier on me because you can plan out your own day without the drive home and stuff like that. I am not telling you to go away but I would look into it if I were you because in the next year hopefully you will figure out a lot about yourself you never knew and that is a thing I wish I could do and I am currently trying to do. So best of luck to you man and don't worry about people think because you are your own person and you recognize that. You are someone we should all look too because you have the courage and self-respect to do the right thing for yourself

Can I just ask what it was about going to school that stressed you out? Like was it all the homework, or some other kind of pressure?

That's part of the problem - I don't even know what it was. I'd just start worrying and panicing about everything. It was to the point where I'd start to consider planning something (like what reading I was going to do between classes the next day, so I knew what to put in my bag for the morning), and I'd end up having some sort of anxiety attack. At that point, I wouldn't even be thinking of anything specific, just panicking/worrying in general.