Cheating Boyfriend

liam · Post by **liam** » 1/15/2004, 4:38 pm

dump the fucker

i know a kid whose my age whos been cheating on his gf for a while, and now the girl he's cheating with is pregnant, now thats some serious shit, i say down with the assholes... i would never cheat on my gf.

Joanne · Post by **Joanne** » 1/17/2004, 7:24 am

ok... i think you should dump him

my problem is: Ive got a boyfriend in Cleveland and I live in Pittsburgh. I called him every week, but since he has a life, unlike me, he is never home and never calls me back. I havent talked to him since Thanksgiving, and im starting to develop a major crush on another guy. But this guy might have a gf. so im stuck in a rut, to add to this all of my boyfriend's friends said that he is probably cheating on me. But they dont know for sure because they do live near him. so do i dump the cleveland boyfriend and push my luck, or hold out for a little longer? :uh:

Lando · Post by **Lando** » 1/17/2004, 7:58 am

Find out for sure if the guy is dating someone else, then follow your heart. If your current bf doesn't seem trustworthy, then it isn't worth being in the relationship because you're not happy with such worry and an unstable relationship.

Relationships have to start with trust and build from there.

Lando · Post by **Lando** » 1/17/2004, 8:00 am

LIAM wrote: i would never cheat on my gf.

I respect you sir.

Sufjan Stevens · Post by **Sufjan Stevens** » 1/17/2004, 12:06 pm

clumsyfreak8 wrote:ok... i think you should dump him

my problem is: Ive got a boyfriend in Cleveland and I live in Pittsburgh. I called him every week, but since he has a life, unlike me, he is never home and never calls me back. I havent talked to him since Thanksgiving, and im starting to develop a major crush on another guy. But this guy might have a gf. so im stuck in a rut, to add to this all of my boyfriend's friends said that he is probably cheating on me. But they dont know for sure because they do live near him. so do i dump the cleveland boyfriend and push my luck, or hold out for a little longer?

OK, let's put this into perspective. You haven't spoken to your boyfriend since THANKSGIVING. What kind of a boyfriend doesn't speak to you for two months? Dump that guy. He's doing nothing but putting a title over your head which keeps you from speaking to other guys, so don't bother with him anymore. It's just not worth your time to stick around with him. Anyways, I'd venture a guess that him not calling you is his way of breaking up with you, so just call him and say it's over.

Then you go and find out if the other guy you like is single. If he is, that's great, get to know what he's about and see if he'll call you once every two months. If he isn't single, that sucks, but at least you can go out and date someone that lives reasonably close to you, and that will speak to you.

finding emo · Post by **finding emo** » 1/17/2004, 3:22 pm

Joanne-
I would dump him too. Long distance relationships are most definitely not supposed to be that way. You need to talk, otherwise it's not really a relationship at all. If so, it is a relationship of convenience and who really wants to be there only when someone else needs them as opposed to both getting their needs fulfilled? It's just not fair to you. And you most definitely deserve much better. You are a beautiful girl and can obviously do much, much better than that.

Joanne · Post by **Joanne** » 1/17/2004, 4:02 pm

thanks to everyone who answered to my dilemma... i'll see what i can do

Sufjan Stevens · Post by **Sufjan Stevens** » 1/17/2004, 5:41 pm

Just leave him a message saying you're dumping him. If he won't speak to you or return your calls, so it in the coldest way possible. No one deserves to only have the title like you have right now. Just end it by any means possible.

Joanne · Post by **Joanne** » 1/17/2004, 6:27 pm

I don't want to be cold about it, reason being, I spend the whole summer at his house because his dad teaches me guitar and he will always be there, i dont want it to be weird, but i respect what your saying

Lando · Post by **Lando** » 1/17/2004, 9:13 pm

Joanne wrote:thanks to everyone who answered to my dilemma... i'll see what i can do

Rock the fuckin' house and kick some ass?

liam · Post by **liam** » 1/18/2004, 12:13 pm

Lando wrote:
Joanne wrote:thanks to everyone who answered to my dilemma... i'll see what i can do

Rock the fuckin' house and kick some ass?

the best advice EVER

Neil · Post by **Neil** » 1/19/2004, 4:14 pm

find some new cock & balls - dump the dude

doug · Post by **doug** » 1/19/2004, 5:33 pm

playing devils advocate....

with respect to the gent with the cheating heart. i think it's one of those things that really has to be judged on a case by case basis. even if the guy cheated once or one hundred times, it might be worth it to give him another shot. evidence:

my father, before he married my mother but while he was supposed to be dating her and her only, cheated all the time from what i'm told. but he eventually figured out that my mom was the girl for him, got rid of all his ladies on the side and she forgave him. result: 25 years of happy, marriage.

you see, while there's no justification for cheating, if a guy is just sleeping around because he's horny and not because he has feelings for the other woman, then that's repairable. if he's doing it because he's in love with/ has feelings for his mistress then there's no turning back.

soooo... if your friends boyfriend has got his urges under control, still loves his girlfriend and doesn't plan on being a bastard again, and she believes in him, then no problem. i'm not saying it'll all be hunky dory again right away but if the two of them want to fix the relationship and believe it's possible then who're we to say they're wrong?

Brooklin Matt · Post by **Brooklin Matt** » 1/20/2004, 4:51 pm

I agree with Doug here. Case by case.

Though sometimes its okay to dump someone even if they are not cheating. There are no rules about it. Just society's conventional outlook which may or may not be a good thing depending on the situation.

My opinion on that long distance relationship...............end it.....and end it now. If you haven't talked since Thanksgiving its obvious there is some apathy there. I say end it...pursue the crush.............well, unless he's taken. But if he doesn't have a ring on his finger, its still okay to tell him how you feel.

Matt out

finding emo · Post by **finding emo** » 1/20/2004, 5:43 pm

doug wrote:playing devils advocate....

with respect to the gent with the cheating heart. i think it's one of those things that really has to be judged on a case by case basis. even if the guy cheated once or one hundred times, it might be worth it to give him another shot. evidence:

my father, before he married my mother but while he was supposed to be dating her and her only, cheated all the time from what i'm told. but he eventually figured out that my mom was the girl for him, got rid of all his ladies on the side and she forgave him. result: 25 years of happy, marriage.

you see, while there's no justification for cheating, if a guy is just sleeping around because he's horny and not because he has feelings for the other woman, then that's repairable. if he's doing it because he's in love with/ has feelings for his mistress then there's no turning back.

soooo... if your friends boyfriend has got his urges under control, still loves his girlfriend and doesn't plan on being a bastard again, and she believes in him, then no problem. i'm not saying it'll all be hunky dory again right away but if the two of them want to fix the relationship and believe it's possible then who're we to say they're wrong?

Yes but also on the other side there are tons of people who had someone cheat took them back and have been unhappily married for 25 years, staying together for the children.

Random Name · Post by **Random Name** » 1/20/2004, 6:51 pm

Just because the guy doesn't necessarily have feelings for any other girl and it sleeping around because he is horny doesn't mean that the relationship is going to work out. There is another half of the relationship that has been damaged which would be the girl. Does she diserve to have her heart broken because he's horny? How is that fair? Why can you mess with someones head because you want a quick bang?
This may not be for all cases or anything but that just seems far too one sided for me.

Joanne · Post by **Joanne** » 1/21/2004, 5:00 am

well, i just found out that my "boyfriend" has been telling his dad and family that we werent going out anymore. for 2 months

and he couldnt even call to ask or tell me that :mad:

Lacrimosa · Post by **Lacrimosa** » 1/21/2004, 6:20 am

well. that bastard. :mad:

*hug*

Brooklin Matt · Post by **Brooklin Matt** » 1/21/2004, 11:24 am

Good riddance..........what a jackass.

doug · Post by **doug** » 1/22/2004, 2:08 pm

Yes but also on the other side there are tons of people who had someone cheat took them back and have been unhappily married for 25 years, staying together for the children.

Yes, that's true also. 's why i said "case by case". sometimes you can save a relationship, sometimes you can't. it depends.

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