crustine wrote:i also find this whole concept of 'trapping' a man with a child pretty offensive. This seems to be used as an excuse to blame the woman too often.
Granted in this scenario we can say that this partner was not the father but in most cases the partner in the relationship is the father. In such cases how can men go around saying she is trying to trap me with a kid? The man played a part in making fertilizing that egg so the onus is not all on the woman. And the fact that an irresponsible sexual resulted in a pregnancy is not the womans fault or most likely the intention of the act.
i am ramblin i just find this whole idea that women go around catchin men by having unprotected sex, i think most women of even low intellegence want more from a relationship than duty.
I gotta be honest here crusty, that's garbage, my uncle who within the last month has separated from his wife of 14 years was tricked into having a kid when he wasn't ready financially or in general to be a parent when he was 26. His wife insisted that she was on birth control (she's 2 years older than him and wanted to be a mother before 30) but she was lying and was purposely trying to get pregnant, which she did... well... it's not really unexpected, considering he just found out since the separation that she'd been cheating on him too.
You can't say he's responsible for this at all, this was his wife, the one person he's supposed to be able to trust and they're supposed to make life changing decisions together.
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