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I've heard a lot of guys say that being asked out is a turn off.

So have I.

However the difference is that I didn't vote

btw sine msn says you're online but none of my msgs are going through

gross!!

I still don't believe. But I guess it depends on the guy. I was just curious because about a week ago I called this guy to go with us a group to see a movie. He wasn't there though, and I never called him back.

I wouldn't necessarily ask a guy out. However, i'm really direct. Meaning that if Ilike you, you'll know, so long as we're friends. And I probably will eventually tell you anyway if you haven't figured it out. The thing with "asking out" is mostly that I dont like dates. They're good for special occaisons, but i'm more than happy to like, sit on the beach all afternoon with a boy or lie on the couch in jammies watching movies all night. I'm too laid back for "courting".

To the guys that have told me they dislike being asked out, i think its more of a "well i'm the man" type thing, with I guess a more traditional(misogynic ) type of dude.

Yeah...that's what I mean. Like go to a movie with friends or "hang out". But I always go to movies with one person...well usually. So a chance to call and renew the offer hasn't happened and I still look crazy.

Just tell him you want to go out for coffee. Or just say :I want to go out with you:

how profound.

Jeeze, people need to stop freaking out about this stuff. How old are you? like 21? 22? You're not in grade 8. It's just a boy. If he likes you then he'll say yes, if he doesn't he says no, aznd you move on and live your life. It's so incredibly simple.

(and yes this is meant to come off harsh. It's what I would say to a friend if they were fretting over this stuff)

Or you could bite him.

Yeah, you're right. Maybe I'm mentally 8.

And perhaps you do sound harsh and I do sound stupid. I'm sorry. But if I recall don't you have a girl you are practically engaged to? I am not so experienced in the dating game and these things come difficultly for me. Besides, from experience, this type of thing causes stress for most people, not just myself.

Not to mention, I really did just want to know if guys like that or not. And since I'm not a guy, I don't know.

I'll go ahead and edit my above post now.

Yes I'm ever so experienced with my umm let's count them... 2 girlfriends that I've had in 6 years.

And to be honest most people do act stupid in relationships. That's why we have a massive divorce rate, and that's why people break up even when they aren't married. Just because it's a problem for everyone doesn't mean it has to be one for you.

J-Neli wrote:how profound.

Jeeze, people need to stop freaking out about this stuff. How old are you? like 21? 22? You're not in grade 8. It's just a boy. If he likes you then he'll say yes, if he doesn't he says no, aznd you move on and live your life. It's so incredibly simple.

(and yes this is meant to come off harsh. It's what I would say to a friend if they were fretting over this stuff)

It's not as easy for some people man, and not everyone appreciates the "tough love." Basically try not to overthink it Cass. Although asking people out is hard, it's mostly because of overthinking. He can only say yes or no. If he says yes that's wonderful, if he says no well that's too bad but you tried and hopefully he will be nice about it. If he's a jerk about it then he wasn't worth it anyway and you wouldn't want to be with a jerk anyway.

I have to agree with Jim. Asking one guy out isnt going to change your life forever if he says no. But it might if he says yes. On the otherhand, if you don't do it, you'll never know.

Well I didn't think it was going to ruin my life folks, I was just caught up in the drama of the moment. I have asked guys out before. That's why I wanted to know...if they...oh nevermind.

haha, I get it Cass. You weren't worried so much as curious.

SURC!

Game's up anyhow! I saw him with a chick. Well I passed him on the road, in his car, and I saw a chick.

I'm strangely relieved.