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It was an accident.

that's my name?!

i just read this entire thread from front to back and now its all a blur.. *hazed eyes*

i agree that you should start out as friends before you actually date. cuz... you wouldnt know anything about them beforehand.

</obvious statement>

But at the same time, sometimes its fun to not know the person. [Though its an invitation for disaster if said person turns out to be a mofo!]

I've dated someone I didn't know at all beforehand... and I've dated a really good friend (Monkey )... both worked out really well (the first ended in complicated circumstances)... so... there's really no logic. It's just a matter of finding someone you can get along with and share enough interests with to not get bored. There's somebody out there for everyone. I mean, even Hitler had Ava Braun.

now only if i could find a man like hitler....

Joey wrote::GASP: you've been here long enough rusty, i think you should know everyone's name by now
shame on you!

I don't know most of the people's names here...

We all make it sound so easy to maintain friendships or get dates. We all have to realise there are a lot of factors that intervene though, even if both people have moved on, it still might not work.

Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

What me and Lando have been saying is that you have to keep the lines of communication open. a lot of relationships don't work because of this. I guarentee that if you talk about your relationship and aren't afraid to be honest you can make a relationship work if you want it to. It's about maturity, it's about understanding, and it's about honesty. Use all three of those and dating can be very easy, and you'll find there is less heartache.
Most often it's the out of the blue stuff that hurts the most. If you can be honest with yourself and let go then you won't be so heart broken.

Theres nothing I can add to this thread


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J-Neli wrote:

Joey wrote::GASP: you've been here long enough rusty, i think you should know everyone's name by now
shame on you!

I don't know most of the people's names here...

We all make it sound so easy to maintain friendships or get dates. We all have to realise there are a lot of factors that intervene though, even if both people have moved on, it still might not work.

Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

What me and Lando have been saying is that you have to keep the lines of communication open. a lot of relationships don't work because of this. I guarentee that if you talk about your relationship and aren't afraid to be honest you can make a relationship work if you want it to. It's about maturity, it's about understanding, and it's about honesty. Use all three of those and dating can be very easy, and you'll find there is less heartache.
Most often it's the out of the blue stuff that hurts the most. If you can be honest with yourself and let go then you won't be so heart broken.

And the compromise. If they are really important to you, What's more important? Having them in your life the only way you can (friendship) or not having them in your life at all.

If their friendship and they themselves mean a lot to you, you'll put forth whatever effort necessary to have them be a part of your life.

J-Neli wrote:

Joey wrote::GASP: you've been here long enough rusty, i think you should know everyone's name by now
shame on you!

I don't know most of the people's names here...

you're just not as cool

Hey, I know where you work! So I'd watch what you say! .... even though I'm 3 hours from there now... and ya, it's an empty threat....

haha! i don't work there anymore.

you can no longer hold that empty threat over me anymore!

...i'm trying to be friends with this guy who i broke up with a few weeks ago but honestly seems like a lost cause...it makes me sad cause i want to be his super rad friend but he's still in love with me so this is becoming impossible...

Give it time. Time heals all wounds

i know...but i don't like time...

Hey Rusty, do you even know my name? :p

I have never dated a friend, so I wouldn't know. Hell, I've hardly dated. But I've had a friend telling me that he has feelings for me but we've been ok about keeping it on a normal level...I hope it can stay that way.

I've just decided I'm asexual. I don't care anymore.

You know, if everyone just sat around waiting for "The One" to plop down in his/her lap, a lot of emo songs would have never been written.


I have never dated, except for in elementry school, but I think we call agree that doesn't count.

I love emo.

I love emus.

Time is a bitch

I always fall for the wrong guys. You know the type of guys who would never fall for me. They are like above my reach, to good for me.
And I'm way too shy. I turn red like a tomato when a "nice guy" only looks my way.
I've never really dated because of it. When I kinda like a guy and he kinda likes me (which only happened like 3 times, well from what I know) I freak out. I just sort of freeze and don't really respond on the hints. The thought of someone liking me/ falling for me, is just too weird for me. It’s not that I don’t want a boyfriend or anything! Pff no! But I don’t want a boyfriend ‘because I want a boyfriend.’ Well, you know what I mean right.

Well maybe it's not just shyness but also low self esteem.