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by **thirdhour** » 10/2/2005, 11:37 pm

thanks

by **beautiful liar** » 10/2/2005, 11:38 pm

anytime. hugs are always free.

they're all i have to give.

by **Dr. Hobo** » 10/2/2005, 11:39 pm

claire rocks :nod:

last.fm · by **Hope** » 10/2/2005, 11:50 pm

thirdhour wrote:It's something intensly personal that happened to someone very close to me. The problem is, it's such a big thing that *I* can barely handle it, and I can't talk to anyone else about it, and it's not fair to turn around to him and be like "This horrible thing happened to you, but can you help me deal with it?"

oh god. i know that feeling.

by **thirdhour** » 10/3/2005, 9:46 pm

Ok, I guess I've accepted it. It didn't take me as long as I thought it would, but I think I'm the point that it's his pain, and I need to help him instead of bringing it on myself.

by **Kathy** » 1/3/2006, 11:50 am

I'm not sure what thread this belongs in but whatever...

:crying:

My mom called me at work to say that one of my uncles died of a massive heart attack. He was about 50 years old and we haven't seen him in years. The worst part is that she can't afford to travel to the funeral as it's across the country. I wish I had the money to pay for it so at least she could go.

Worst part #2... he was laying dead on his kitchen floor for 3 days before he was found. They're currently looking for his gf... it appears she may have found him dead, taken everything valuable from his house, and left without telling anyone! :crying:

I don't know who this bitch is but I'd like to hunt her down...

My mom is a puddle of tears and I'm trying to be there for her but it's hard when I'm at the office... this is so upsetting. I'm at work trying to keep my composure and I keep welling up with tears.

I just needed to write this down somewhere. Thanks for listening.

by **afealicious** » 1/3/2006, 12:24 pm

Kathy14 wrote:Worst part #2... he was laying dead on his kitchen floor for 3 days before he was found. They're currently looking for his gf... it appears she may have found him dead, taken everything valuable from his house, and left without telling anyone! I don't know who this bitch is but I'd like to hunt her down...

WHAT THE HELL! :mad:

i'm so sorry, this is just awfulll

:(:( *hugs*
ugh some people are so terrible! :no:

best wishes to you and your family.

by **Soozy** » 1/3/2006, 1:42 pm

That's awful.

*bug hugs for Kathy*

by **Kathy** » 1/3/2006, 1:44 pm

thanks for the hugs... definitely needing lots right now

This feels like a story in a newpaper... I can't believe it's actually something my family is dealing with right now.

by **nikki4982** » 1/4/2006, 1:25 am

Some people can be so selfish. I'm so sorry, Kathy. *hugs*

by **Kathy** » 1/4/2006, 10:59 am

I need to write a book or soap opera... this is nuts, but it fits right in with all the crazy crap that happens in my family. It's an ongoing drama around here.

I'm at work and finding it extremely hard to concentrate. I'm helping my mom with a few things at the same time. There are still 2 brothers they haven't been able to contact to share the news... this is a family that hasn't talked in years and it's taken something like this to make them realize how stupid that is. I feel like a private investigator trying to track down these two uncles of mine...

by **nikki4982** » 1/4/2006, 1:08 pm

Ack.

Hopefully some good can come out of this tragedy and your family can become a family again.

by **Rusty** » 1/4/2006, 8:38 pm

Awww, I'm sorry to hear that! *hugs* I hope you find the unlces, and the bitch who took the stuff.

by **Kathy** » 1/7/2006, 8:15 am

so most of my aunts and uncles are communicating via phone and email now, which is great. We still haven't found the 2 uncles that are MIA. Apparently the woman/gf of my late uncle in Alberta has been found (duh, she's been driving around in his truck) but I don't have more details.

by **nikki4982** » 1/7/2006, 10:37 am

Well, for the most part, that sounds like very good news.

Hope you can find those two missing uncles soon.

by **Kathy** » 1/16/2006, 6:41 pm

**Don't read if you get squeamish & don't want to read about surgery!!

Sorry to be using the support thread again... I'm having a rough time lately and I need to put my thoughts down somewhere. If you don't want to read or respond to this, that's totally okay!!

I just got back from an oral surgery consultation appt and I've been bawling ever since :crying:

I sobbed the whole way home and almost got in an accident because I couldn't see straight through the tears. Driving while crying is not a good idea.

My jaw pain needs to be addressed because I've been dealing with it my whole life... living on painkillers that are becoming less and less effective, and are affecting me in numerous other negative ways. In December I was told I'd need braces, 7 teeth extracted, and a surgery which would require a couple of days & nights in hospital. I was upset and stressed by this, but didn't know all the details. Since then my husband and I have talked about it a lot and determined we'd be able to deal with it together (financially, emotionally, etc)

Today I had an appt where we finally got down to the exact details of the surgery that would be required. And that's why I've been crying.... they would put on the braces, and once I got comfortable they'd schedule the in-hospital session. At that time I would have 7 teeth removed (4 of which are high-risk impacted wisdom teeth), they'd cut my upper gums to release them from around the bone, then they'd cut the bone that holds the roof of the mouth in one piece (it's two pieces, fused together at the front by bone), and they'd pull apart the left and right sides of the roof of my mouth to expand my upper jaw. This would form a space between my front teeth (keep in mind I am also missing 7 teeth so there are various other gaps). These spaces will gradually fill in AFTER a few months :crying:

So essentially I need 2 weeks out of work for the surgery and recovery. And I still won't want to go back to work, or out of the house for that matter, because I'll be an ugly jack-o-lantern! I can't go to work like that!!! I was self-conscious and upset about having to get braces.... this is much, much worse! Esp for someone who already has no self-confidence and suffers from chronic anxiety and depression. OMG I'm gonna cry again... :crying:

So because of all the gaps being created, I'll need 3 years of braces... after that I'll be completely healed from the surgery, my jaws will line up correctly, I shouldn't be living on painkillers, my teeth will be straight for the first time in my life, I might be able to sleep through a night without waking up in pain, I might be able to eat without thinking constantly about what will/won't hurt, I won't be so self-conscious when I smile, etc. The straight teeth are a side benefit... the whole purpose of this treatment is to fix my jaw.

Here's an example from the web of what one guy looked like right after the surgery that pulls apart the roof of the mouth:

http://idisk.mac.com/brent9/Public/Teeth/IMG_1526.jpg

It took over 100 days for this guy's gap to fill in, and he didn't even have other gaps from extractions.

I thought I'd feel better to get this written down but I'm feeling more depressed by the minute. I can't live in pain every day anymore, but I'm not sure I can go through this treatment plan either!!

:crying::crying::crying::crying::crying:

I'm extremely sorry for writing so much about this. If you managed to get through it, thank you

If not, I don't blame you cuz I'm not sure I'd have read it either.

by **Johnny** » 1/16/2006, 6:47 pm

Ouch.

by **afealicious** » 1/16/2006, 6:50 pm

oh nooo *hug* the surgery sounds awful...

braces aint so bad though. i've had some form of orthodontic appliance in my mouth for nearly five years, and will have to survive another two more. AWFUL LONG TIME. headgear, jaw-realignment fixatives, elastics...you name them, i've probably had them before. annoying and painful as hell. no, braces for me are the most freedom i've experienced in a long time. and yeah, i'm a little self-conscious about them, but it only goes up from here. you get to watch your smile gradually get better and better. the day they come off will be blissful. *sigh*

good luck kathy.

by **Kathy** » 1/16/2006, 7:02 pm

Thanks for the hugs

I wish this would have been taken care of when I was a young teen! My real anger and frustration is directed at my parents. They got estimates and then turned them down because it cost $4000. Then they put money into a crappy used car (not to drive, for my dad to play with), and also into a get-rich-quick scheme my dad was interested in and got nothing out of. So their excuse to me was that they had no money, but that wasn't really the case.

Compare to now, when the total cost is $10,000, it's more invasive (surgery required), more painful, more risk (of nerve damage in surgery), I have to apply for short term disability to get that much time off work, and I still have to go back to work and look like a jack-o-lantern. My colleagues are rich, all have straight teeth from braces when they were kids, etc. I'm already the odd one out and this is going to make it sooo much worse. I just wanna scream but I've been crying so long I've lost my voice

**Edited because I said something I shouldn't say on here...I type fast and based on emotions when I should maybe think first!!

by **closeyoureyes** » 1/16/2006, 7:09 pm

Where do you live dude?!?
Your dental plan should cover that. My sister has braces and my parents didn't pay anything.

Dentists are like.. free.

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