by joe_canadian » 10/15/2004, 12:43 am
I wrote this for my dad, for his birthday, because I love him more than anything in the entire world. It is very personal, and very honest. Please do not read it unless you'll treat it with sensitivity.
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For a moment the room stands still and listens.
“Hmm. Time to go.” He smiles wide to draw attention from the wince in his eyes.
“Hmm.” He nods but stays seated, with his hands on his knees.
The clock ticks past quarter after three and the room resumes its noisome sleep. The blinds nod lazily between weak afternoon light, which tickles Ficus plants and gathers in pools round coffee table and darkened lamp. Son tries hard to return Father’s smile, and glances at the troublesome clock, a tightness ballooning in his chest. His mind swirls, stills, and returns once more to the problem of time. He lays his head on his knee and takes some deep breaths. He knows that he must begin soon or he will succumb for good.
“What’s wrong?” He places his keys on the counter and hurries to sit beside his son, an instantly worried hand on his shoulder. “Hey, are you alright? Does something hurt? Son?”
Son smiles wide and blinks slowly. His stomach does hurt, and the chill on his ribs beckons him walk away to the toilet, to privacy and silence, routed. He thinks that he has tried this before, that he has made the motions and the sounds. This is unnecessary. This is stupid. You are stupid, what are you doing?
He pushes the air out of his lungs and covers his face. Fear.
Teetering on a plank inside his body, his heart closes its eyes and puts its feet forward. Pushing through cobwebs and a tide of the awkward - a syrup of doubt - forcing himself into days when he was small and love was not something that burned and cut, Son takes Father’s hand and squeezes, presses it against his own forehead. He cannot help but shake at the strangeness.
“I hate this.” He says.
“What? Hey, what? Hate, hate what?” He is stricken.
“Nothing. Just that: nothing. Not feeling what I should. Having to pull and choke to tell you what ought to come easy. Being accustomed to, to being alien and separate from what should be familiar. What should be welcome and welcoming. Of not having a problem with how wrong everything is and being numb and far away. Of being far away, when I’m.. When we’re eating dinner in front of the television... and laughing together, and talking on long car rides that seem short. I hate only being in love, in stupid, fiery love, and hurt by it... and being embarrassed by the old love. The... the simple love. I miss it... I miss the love that knew me before I ever drew breath. I miss you... dad.” And tears trace their way across his Father’s hand.
Father sits back, his hand clenched to his boy’s face. He loves his son, he loves his son but doesn’t understand this.
“I. Son...”
“No, wait,” holding the anchoring hand tighter, “You don’t know, I have to say, say everything right now or I never will. I hate... what I’ve become.”
“Son, what have you become?”
“I’m. I’m... dad, I’m not your boy anymore.”
Father takes an unsteady breath.
“And I never wanted to grow up. You’ve been... Peter Pan, dad. And I was a lost boy. The lost boy. And here, this place, this home away from home... this is Never Never Land where we had our adventures together,” He shakes his head and gasps a sad laugh, “If you can understand that. Dad, you’re magic. You’ve always been magic to me. But I did it. I grew up. And this is what I hate... dad, I grew away. I swear I didn’t mean to-“
”I understand what.. It’s not - I understand that you have to do.“
”Please, listen. Please... please just listen to me. I’ve always been angry with the walls that stood between us. We’ve been mad at them together, we’ve mocked them and spited them and we’ve gone around and between them. And it was good... for a time. But I wasn’t honest... I spent too much time looking outward and gnashing my teeth at the problems that our lives... that our shitty deal brought us. And... Dad, this is my fault. When we’re together and there’s still something between us. That’s my fault... it’s my fault because I grew up. And I tried,” Clasping his father’s hand harder, “I tried to hang on to you as I went. As I moved and learned and fought and... and grew. But I lost you dad. Somewhere in here a wall went up and it didn’t come down. A wall that I built. To... I don’t know why. Because I had to. Because I had to live.
Father, please listen... if you’ve ever listened before, listen now. I love you. I love you so much that I couldn’t contain it and I had to shut it away in some dark place to survive. I love you with a purity and a deepness my awkward, my young heart can’t fathom. Can’t handle. A love that... it kept me awake at night and made me want to run into your arms and kiss your face and never let you go. You’re... you are my dad. I need you to understand... that meant so much to me that I couldn’t keep it. You are my hero... you are the blood in my veins, you have set a map before me that has taught me the measure of a man. But... I can’t follow that map dad. I want to follow it, and somehow find my way back to you. I want to be your son again and have you hold me up high so we can laugh... and smile... and fight and cry with an innocence that I can only remember.
But daddy, I’m too big now... inside and out. I have to forge my own way... I have to cut away parts of me I’ve kept for too long... because I have a long... long road ahead of me, and... and a lot of building to do. I have to go away and make a life. And that... that’s so scary I can’t even think on it right now. But you can’t protect me from it. You can’t whisk me away to Never Land and make everything alright. I have to do this.” He takes a long breath, letting his fingers slip from his father’s own, “But if I have to leave... dad, I don’t want to leave without saying goodbye. I don’t want... a maze of high walls between your heart and mine. I want you.. I want you to have a clear view of what I will become. I don’t want you to have any doubts or misconceptions... I want you to know... know, not, not just think... know, where I left you.”
Son releases Father’s hands.
He turns to face him, red eyed and crying, lips shaking but proud, “I love you. I always will.”
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